At a party with my female friends a week or so ago, there was a lot of talk about nicknames. In an email friend chain, we’d circulated the recent column from The Atlantic detailing the trend for ladies to affectionately (or not so affectionately) nickname the men in their lives with stuff ranging from semi-cutesy (“Hot Deli Counter Guy”) to pretty darn demeaning (“Limp Dick McGoo.”)
[For the record: It is very mean to call a person you’re intimate with “Limp Dick McGoo”. You should not be dating someone named this. If you find yourself referring to the person you’ve elected to spend romantic time with as “Limp Dick McGoo”, please consider that Limp Dick McGoo is not the only one with some, er, functional issues.]
As we’re all too aware by now, it’s been a raw decade for young Americans. The job market still has a giant, recession-shaped crater in it. A college degree is more expensive yet more essential than ever. Wages are stagnant.
All of this adds up to a single sad possibility, according to the New York Times’ Annie Lowrey: Today’s twenty- and thirty-somethings may never end up as rich and financially secure as their parents…
A frightening/ fascinating piece in The Atlantic.
It seems to make it extra hard, when people scrutinize how exactly you execute a difficult and brave thing.
The Atlantic: “Is There a Right Way to Come Out of the Closet?”
The fact is, Cooper’s adamant and long-held refusal to discuss his personal life, even though he’s written a memoir about himself and hosts a talk show that’s all about other people’s personal lives, has probably done more harm to the common gay psyche than his recent coming out has done good. And we’re strange creatures for saying that he did something “classily” when the real classy thing would have been to acknowledge the truth long before his 45th birthday. Cooper has been an advocate for fairness and openness in his professional career, so denying a fact of his own life — as open as it might have been to friends and family, it was not to the rest of the world — seems to imply that, well, openness can only get you so far, that he stood to lose something by being honest. I know eventually we’d like to get to a place where it seriously is no big deal, but we’re not there yet. Every big, loud bit helps. What doesn’t help is praising a shuffle like this as a somehow better or more elegant way to come out.
CBS News: ‘Chely Wright: Anderson Cooper’s Coming Out “Perfect”‘
“I think he gave a genuine response,” she said. “Andrew Sullivan reached out to him, said ‘do you have comments on this article?’ And he gave a genuine response and said, ‘And by the way, share this with your readers.’ I don’t think in any way it was a cowardly move, a sneaky, get-it-under-the-radar-on-a-holiday-weekend. I thought it was just a real genuine, human response to a question asked, and I think, you know, I’m certainly – I can’t say what Anderson Cooper thinks, but I would imagine that at some point recently, he probably said to himself, ‘Why am I not out? Why haven’t I not done this? OK, I’ll just do it.’”
Anderson Cooper comes out on Andrew Sullivan’s column on The Daily Beast.
According to research the parasite Toxoplasma gondii (or Toxo for short), which is found in cat’s litter boxes, can affect human behavior.
Check it out in this pretty crazy Atlantic article.
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