Let’s be real, the first thing people look at or care about on your internet dating profile is your profile photo. Your internet dating photos are like your business cards. I write a lot about dating and the internet and I’ve seen some of the best and some of the worst profiles out there. So here are my internet dating photos dos and donts. Some of these may be personal preferences, but give them a try if you’re not having results and see if things change.
DON’T upload less than three photos. People need a good sense of what you look like so when you’re meeting up for the first time they recognize you and don’t go up to someone who kinda sorta resembles you (or even worse, is like a better looking version of yourself). Women tend to experiment with different hair and makeup, so ladies, post a few of your different “looks.” For example, when I had a dating profile, I posted a photo of myself wearing red lipstick and not, and photos of myself in glasses and without.
RIP: OKTrends, where nice guys and shirtless bros could turn to all-knowing infographics to learn lessons and know knowledge. Now that OKTrends is once-upon-a-time, I volunteer to step in as adviser for all of you 45-year old creepers out there looking to snag yourself a recent college graduate, alone and vulnerable because she just moved to your city and knows no one. Also for other types of Online Dater Dudez.
About two months ago I joined OKCupid. Mostly for shits and giggles and flattering messages, but also because it’s a practical thing to do. Because you can’t walk into a bar and tell everyone to get out except for “well-educated Jews between the ages of 23 and 29, who live in the more trendy parts of the greater Los Angeles area and enjoy all types of asian and middle eastern cuisine, please.”*
Chloe had reached a point that so many of her generation come to, she was ready to try online dating. After Tyler she felt defeated and worst of all, like she didn’t know what she wanted anymore. A quirky biography and $40 later she was ready to date.
It was getting cold in New York and Chloe didn’t want to spend another winter holding her teddy bear and a hot toddy, alone on those icy nights. She tweaked and tweaked her profile, inserting things that girls think guys like: “No romantic comedies for me, I’m all about Tarantino and the Batman franchise”, or “Give me a slice of pizza and a beer and my night’s made.” She had to weed through the perverted men twice her age bombarding her with messages, but soon some possibilities seeped through the cracks.
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