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One of the questions I’m asked all the time, aside from, “Are you drunk?” is, “How do I tell if someone likes me? Like, likes me?”
My answer to this is, “If you have to ask, they don’t like like you.” That’s number one. I know this may hurt, but if someone really liked you, you would know. And if a month passed by and they didn’t make a move, it’s not going to happen.
But some people are diabolically shy, and make this a little harder to figure out. And on the other side are the people who are diabolically clueless who don’t realize if someone is blatantly hitting on you.
So, you want to know how to tell if someone likes you? Here are some hints.
For many of us, flirting is fun and effortless — as natural as breathing. For others, they’d rather stick toothpicks in their eyes. But hang on, terrible flirters — maybe it’s not that you can’t flirt — but just that you haven’t found the right flirting style yet.
Dr. Jeffery Hall, assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas and his colleagues conducted a survey to determine the different types of flirts. The survey was published in Communication Quarterly.
“People often find themselves frustrated or unhappy with their ability to get others to notice them,” he says. “If we know more about what we do, and the likely outcomes of each style [of flirting], then it may give us insight into why we end up where we do.”
So what are the five styles of flirting? Dr. Hall breaks them down.
I just had the most delightful, enlightening, and inspiring read and I couldn’t wait to tell you all about it! It’s called Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt, and it is all about enabling you to shine your inner light so brightly that it becomes a man-attracting beacon. You heard me right. There is so much good, freaking empowering stuff to learn from this book that I recommend it for absolutely everyone. And there are flirtation techniques that are fun for even boring marrieds (I’ve already tried a few on my husband with excellent results). Reading Smitten is like having someone encourage you up the ladder to the high-dive and cheering, “One, two, three!” as you ready to jump into a big pool of self-confidence and flirting savvy.
Try to not walk away from potential new friends…
Finding the courage to chat with an attractive stranger isn’t always easy, particularly for the wallflowers among us. Luckily, a few people have figured out a way to make these conversations less nerve-wracking. Check out this article at HuffPost Women to learn how to approach anybody with total confidence.
Welcome to the latest edition of Ask A dah Guy!
This week’s dah Guy - a 31-year-old musician nestled deep in The South – is here to answer the questions YOU submitted this past week. What does he think of your outfit? Is he reading into your ambiguous non-date? Which guy is he hoping to be in your dah?
To submit your questions for next week’s column, email us at with “Ask A dah Guy” in the subject line!
And now for some answers…
Men: there’s confidence and there’s cockiness. It can be hard to figure out which one is which. It can be hard for women too. But please, do not have this mindset.
Sometimes I read something on a guy’s dating/pick-up blog and think, “Wait, what? This is a joke, right?” This was one of those times. And so is this:
There I was, sitting across from him: A 6’2” Swedish guy with shades and more swagger than you could shake a stick at. We were grabbing a beer, discussing thoughts on life, women, and his plan to spend months in the Bahamas working on a boat. We started picking each others brains when I asked,
“How do know when you should approach a girl or not? How do you know she even wants to talk to you?”
He sat back, smiled, and let out a chuckle. “It’s always the right time to talk to her. Why? Because every girl wants me. If a girl makes eye contact with me, smiles at me, or whatever, she’s into me. It’s that simple.”
What? What? No. No. No. No. No for everything he said but also for the idea that I may wind up sitting next to someone like this guy.
One of the questions I’m asked all the time, aside from, “Are you drunk?” is, “How do I tell if someone likes me? Like, likes me?” Well, it’s usually pretty simple how to tell if someone likes you.
My answer to this is, “If you have to ask, they don’t like like you.” That’s number one. I know this may hurt, but if someone really liked you, you would know. And if a month passed by and they didn’t make a move, it’s not going to happen.
But some people are diabolically shy, and make this a little harder to figure out. And on the other side are the people who are diabolically clueless who don’t realize if someone is blatantly hitting on you.
Here are some hints if someone is into you (or not):
– They go out of their way to make you happy. This could mean hanging out with you, helping you out with something, whatever. Going out of their way means maybe they have to drive a long distance or change up their plans, but they do it because they like you, and want to see you.
– They don’t call you repeatedly after 2 AM and ask you to come over. All this means is that they like having sex with you. They don’t like you. They don’t hate you, they just don’t want to take it beyond sex.
“Go for it!” he said. “Flirting is fun. It feels great.”
We were talking about how I have felt vaguely awkward around other men since being in a committed relationship (um, years now). My problems, as described to said husband, were as follows:
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I didn’t want to lead anyone on. I’m no femme fatale, but I’d learned to be a pretty effective flirt after some trial and error. (For me, this generally meant making a well-placed Star Wars reference. Know your audience!)
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Becky isn’t sure if this guy is in her dah (he’s The Prospect You’re Not Sure Is A Prospect). WTF?! But more importantly, he’s unambiguously answering YOUR questions on boyfriends, flirting and phone calls.
To submit your questions for next week’s guy, email us at [email protected] with “Ask a dah Guy” in the subject line!
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Question #1: My boyfriend and I have been dating for around six months, and far as I can remember, he has never once said I look nice in an outfit or called me beautiful or complimented me in any way – unless I’m in my underwear, and then all I hear is how hot I look. But what’s more, he is always pointing out to me other girls he thinks are hot. He has a very definite type – short hair, punk, broody – and I’m the opposite (boho, outdoorsy), so it makes me feel very insecure when he tells me how beautiful some other girl is or how hot some punk chick’s hair looks.
He does this all the time, even when we’re not in a fight, and I’ve told him before that it makes me upset. We’ve known each other for several years and have only recently become a couple, so most of me thinks that he’s just so used to me by now. When he only tells me I’m hot when I’m butt-naked, it makes me feel like thats all I’m good for. So what’s your take?
Can I be honest? This guy sounds like a bum. I can actually understand not complimenting you too often on your appearance, as this is something that I, too, am pretty hesitant to do. Even if I’m out with a girl I find very attractive, saying how pretty she looks can feel very forced, so I don’t. Now some guys, my oldest brother for one, can say this to every woman in the room and it will sound very natural and genuine. And good for him because, Newsflash: people like being told they’re pretty.
So, yeah, this guy should probably be telling you how attractive you are (in clothes), but I’m letting him off the hook for that offense. But I am stringing this crumbum* up by the ankles for his worst offense; you do not tell your girlfriend how hot other women are. I mean, guys don’t need to act like other women aren’t attractive, but pointing out the ones that we think are hot is strictly verboten. And this is pretty common knowledge. Guys know not to do that. Your boyfriend is being a jackass.
What it sounds like to me, and I hesitate to say this, but I am trusting you to be smart enough to receive this correctly, is this: I think he probably wants you to dress or act more like a punk chick. If he’s dating you, I’m going to guess that he does find you attractive and, with your clothing gone, he obviously does. So, he is probably thinking, hey, you know what’d be cool. If this hot girl I’m dating dressed more like this girl or did her hair like that girl.
Now, this is just a guess, of course, but right or wrong don’t change who you are to fit someone else’s ideal. I think that’s obvious…I really hope it’s obvious, but hey, it needs to be said. I’m not sure what else to tell you except to repeat that, yeah…this guy kind sounds like a bum.
*that’s a word, right?
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Question #2: Do you have any tips on how I can tell if a guy is flirting with me, or just being nice…?
Hm, honestly, no.
Oh sorry, is that not helpful? Uh…well let me start by saying this: there is sometimes no difference between the two; it really depends on the guy. I know that I am a heinous offender when it comes to blurring this line. For most of my life, I didn’t know how to interact with girls except to flirt with them. Do you think that caused some problems? Oh yeah.
I will offer a few tips, but just remember, they might be completely useless, depending on the guy in question. And hell, he might be flirting with you one day and then, the very next day, treat you with all the kindness that he would show his dear old grandmother.
Tip 1: Be on the look-out for stupid comments.
Hey did you know that guys sometimes get nervous around girls they like? Crazy, I know! So, if a guy is normal and articulate when you’re hanging out in a group and then says things like “potato is kind of a funny word” when you’re alone together, then maybe he’s doing a little bit of starch-based flirtation. Hooray!
Tip 2: Is his hand on your leg?
Here’s one I bet you didn’t think of: if he’s touching you, he’s probably doing so because he wants to touch you! Ok, a hand on the leg might be a tad obvious. But maybe his arm is wrapped behind your chair so that he’s not touching you at all, but will be once you lean back. …Then again, maybe he just likes stretching out…
One thing I tend to do is guide a girl by the lower back. Meaning, if we’re walking together and suddenly have to go into a single-file, I will allow her to go ahead of me with a gentle touch. Or, if we’re in the street and a car is coming, the guidance may be slightly more actualized but no less affectionate.
Tip 3: Turn to literature
If you really want to know if a guy likes you, write him a simple note asking “Do you like me?” And be sure to leave a checkbox for “yes” and a slightly smaller one for “no.” That’s how I got Alex Emery to go with me to the seventh grade dance and I’m sure it’ll work for you, too!
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Question #3: I have a Boyfriend Prospect in my dah. We text all the time and make plans to hang out via text. But it feels like it would be quicker and easier to talk on the phone sometimes, but I don’t want to be the first to call him because he’s never called me… Plus, it’s nice to say hi and talk on the phone sometimes right? Am I overthinking this? Should I just call him? Or definitely not call him?
Ahh, good question. This much is certain: you’re not over-thinking it. It’s one of those really stupid things in life, but there is definitely a dynamic-shift from texting to calling. You’re absolutely correct that it is often quicker and easier to make plans while talking instead of the often-tedious back-and-forth of texting.
I think that if you want to talk over the phone, give it a try! One of you is going to have to be the first to call the other, right? Give it a go and see if the call is weird and uncomfortable or natural and easy. His opening “hello” will probably be a good indicator of this. If he really hates phone calls, then you’ll likely have to keep on texting, but I don’t think you’re going to lose any favor in his eyes by at least attempting the nerve-wracking first phone-call.
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