If you’ve played “Never Have I Ever” as a drinking game with a group of close friends, you’ve probably been exposed to some pretty intimate details of where your buddies have gotten it on in public. My friends have revealed places such as their neighbor’s pool, seedy bathrooms, the beach, put-put golf courses, Disneyland’s Pirates of the Caribbean ride… I think I have a group of exceptionally perverted pals, but at least they make for an excellent evening of TMI! But getting down in a space outside of your bedroom isn’t ALL about bragging rights. A change of scene might be a way for you and your partner to reboot your sex life and get an easy thrill from the chance of getting caught. Askmen does say that exhibitionism happens to be the second most common sexual fantasy for women, by the way. But if defiling a children’s theme park ride isn’t your speed, you can still take the bedroom aerobics somewhere with a smaller calculated risk.
I have been told, more than once, that I have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in me. Charlie and I had sex on my balcony of my old apartment in full view of the offices of a major political party, I’ve fantasized with partners about going to a swingers club where voyeurs might watch us, and hell – I write about my sex life on the internet.
I don’t think I am in the minority in this respect. Public displays of affection are a very tame way of expressing your sexual attraction to your partner to other people. And we have all seen (or been) the couple having the intense make out on the dance floor, declaring to the world, “Look! Other people find me sexually attractive! I am validated by this tongue in my mouth!” I mean – Never Have I Ever is pretty much just a chance to brag about all the exciting sexual encounters we have had.
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