Melnik: My “daily” TED talk viewing this morning was with Esther Perel, a psychotherapist who spoke about keeping the flame alive in long-term relationships – I am talking about HOT SEX, you guys. Perel posits that if we qualify love as “to have” and desire as “to want”, then desire within commitment becomes paradoxical, at least semantically. The question at hand is: why does good sex fade even for those couples who continue to love each other or, more plainly, is it possible to want what you already have? I loved this woman’s talk, possibly in a gay way, but that aside, I thought she had a great way of framing the issue – “the crisis of desire is the crisis of imagination”. I was quick to discuss with my soul sister and sexual liberté enthusiast, Tiffany Greshler. Gresh, do you agree that “a foregone conclusion can’t satisfy our interest”?
David and Paula’s idea of foreplay was a 5-mile run (what?).
John and Jill exchanged upwards of 30,000 pages of email correspondence (!), and the most the FBI can say is that the messages were “flirtatious” and the general is being investigated for “inappropriate communication.” YAWN.
At least Anthony Weiner tweeted a dick pick (NSFW)…not that it was that impressive.
I enter this complaint for the record, because when one looks at bygone eras of supposed sexual purity and/or intense repression, for example – The Victorian Era, one finds a veritable explosion of bizarre, creative, naughty, and exotic sexual innuendo AND outright sex.
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