Let’s be real, the first thing people look at or care about on your internet dating profile is your profile photo. Your internet dating photos are like your business cards. I write a lot about dating and the internet and I’ve seen some of the best and some of the worst profiles out there. So here are my internet dating photos dos and donts. Some of these may be personal preferences, but give them a try if you’re not having results and see if things change.
DON’T upload less than three photos. People need a good sense of what you look like so when you’re meeting up for the first time they recognize you and don’t go up to someone who kinda sorta resembles you (or even worse, is like a better looking version of yourself). Women tend to experiment with different hair and makeup, so ladies, post a few of your different “looks.” For example, when I had a dating profile, I posted a photo of myself wearing red lipstick and not, and photos of myself in glasses and without.
Online dating has turned into more than just filling out a profile, crossing your fingers, and hoping for the best. If you really want to be successful, you’ve got to see yourself as a brand. That sounds strange, doesn’t it? But really, it’s about representing yourself in the best possible light. Especially now that there are so many dating apps out there. I checked some of them out and that’s what made me realize that your little profile, with its opportunities to appear on so many different platforms, has to be your digital business card.
For example, Swoon, my favorite that I tried, is like shuffling through a stack of digital photos. You use your Facebook ID to sign in (but they never post anything to your wall or tell your friends, “HEY EVERYBODY, THIS CHICK’S LOOKING AT PEOPLE ONLINE!!!!”) and then you swipe through faces and “x” them or “checkmark” them. And no one knows if you “x” them out. They’re only notified if you “check” them. It’s wonderfully easy to use, uncluttered, and pretty cute.
But the thing about it — and for some people this is great, and others it isn’t — is that it asks the user to make snap decisions. Scrolling through lots of men/women without worrying about having to reject them to their face (digital or otherwise) makes it pretty easy to just keep swiping, hoping that maybe you’ll eventually find a Jon Hamm lookalike.
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