Friends. Last week we lost our collective and proverbial playlist virginity. Together. It was special. You feel different. I feel different. Deep and meaningful feelings were felt. So now I feel obligated to lighten the mood. Weekend flings over diamond rings, casual sex to match your casual clothes for summer. Here are some tunes to which you can casually do it.
The website targets “farmers, ranchers, and country folk” and insists that “city folk just don’t get it”. As city folk we found it hilarious and immediately called over our friend who comes from one of those square states in the middle. Eventually our curiosity got the better of us, out came the smart phones, and before we knew it we were cobbling together a fake profile. What transpired was a quick trip through these five stages.
Have you ever woken up the morning after a one-night stand and wondered, “What was I thinking?!”
I certainly did in my younger days. Today, I have the wisdom of some twenty years in my back pocket. With that, here’s the very best advice I have — and some of my colleagues have shared — on how to make those one-night stands work for you.
First, know that one-night stands are a common part of early adulthood. They’re a great way to let off a little steam, hook up with a hot guy, and expand your sexual repertoire. But they can also be land mines for low self-esteem, shame and judgment.
The way to avoid any negative ramifications from casual hook-ups is to be clear about what you want and why before you engage with someone. Here are 6 things you can do (or not do) to make a fling fun rather than awful.
Judging by the influx of Hallmark and Edible Arrangement commercials interrupting your viewing of “The Bachelor,” you’ve probably figured out that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. And, you’ve probably resigned yourself to spending it in your pajamas, researching how do make a voodoo doll of your ex while slurping down cheap Chinese food and watching “The Craft.”
Here’s an idea: instead of wallowing in your single-girl misery, how about getting into the holiday spirit. Because, after all, Valentine’s Day is about love and relationships – not about having a boyfriend / husband / partner / whatever. And so, I offer you seven things to do on Valentine’s Day that don’t involve wallowing or a boyfriend.
1. Make someone’s Valentine’s Day special.
Have a friend that recently went through a breakup, got laid off and/or lost his or her pet goldfish? Be someone’s someone special. Nowhere in the V-Day rulebook does it say that Valentine’s Day traditions are reserved for romantic relationships. Make reservations at a nice restaurant, preferably with one of those ridiculous love-themed prix fixe menus. Slip into your favorite evening attire, and bring your date flowers, chocolate, a heart shaped balloon or one of those adorable teddy bears holding a red heart (the more ridiculous the better). Do every stupid and clichéd thing that every guy in your life neglected to do. Not only will you both have an amazing dinner without all of the sexual tension, but you’ll also get all of those warm and fuzzy feelings by making someone feel good.
When we say we are going through a dry spell, it tends to conjure up some very specific imagery. I usually associate this term with a montage of a hapless yet charming leading man facing rejection, with increasing hilarity, as he tries to woo a string of women. Or maybe of a woman sitting on her couch, eating ice cream in her comfy pants but starring longingly at a cute dress that never gets its night on the town. (Apparently, I’ve seen too many movies).
You get the point – the dry spell generally refers to sexless night after sexless night, and the frustration (and desperation) that can accompany it.
Coming soon (or, in July) to a theater near you! Two romantic comedies in which a guy and a girl who are friends start having casual sex.
This is good news, because it means we get to watch really attractive people getting down. Unfortunately, however, both films seem to offer a heavy dose of emotional confusion and strife, especially Ivan Reitman’s NO STRINGS ATTACHED (“I can’t date her she’s my oldest friend!”).
You don’t have to, um, have seen either movie to bring on this spoiler: despite our heroes’ hopes and dreams of idyllic, sexy NSA non-relationships, they can’t help but feel that spark of…connection! romance! love?
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