The website targets “farmers, ranchers, and country folk” and insists that “city folk just don’t get it”. As city folk we found it hilarious and immediately called over our friend who comes from one of those square states in the middle. Eventually our curiosity got the better of us, out came the smart phones, and before we knew it we were cobbling together a fake profile. What transpired was a quick trip through these five stages.
When facing a blow off, all you want is to send a text/chat/e-mail that reads as coy and aloof. “Hey mister, remember me? I’m pretty and nice and you should want to talk to me. See how casually my hair falls in front of my eye?”
But there’s always the chance it will come off like this:
“PAY ATTENTION TO ME! I’M CRAAAAAAAZY!”
Ladies, gentleman and everything in-between. I come to you with a revelation that may surprise you. Now, as you may have intuited, I am an ass-kicking, card-carrying, take no prisoners or bullshit feminist through and through. I think men should be nannies and women should be president and anyone who wants to should wear pants or skirts or makeup or play with dolls or legos. Don’t get me started on access to birth control or the enforcement of Title IX unless you have time for a long lecture. And yet, here it is…
I love gender roles, even really specific gender roles, inside of my own relationships.
(Now, a quick rant on definitions: When I say gender – I am talking about the social constructs of men and women, not the biological sexes male and female. These are different, don’t conflate them ever again! I refuse to fill out forms on which the options for gender are male and female or the options for sex are man or woman. You can too!)
Okay, so gender roles – I love them. This is why.
I hate internet dating. Internet dating forces me to make choices I’m just not ready to make. I have to decide how to describe my 5’11” frame, built for carrying milk long distances or playing rugby, as full-figured or curvy. I have to decide if my hair is dark-blonde or light brown, if that picture from my birthday two years ago is too old to still be accurate, if I care if someone is religious or went to college…
But the worst part about internet dating, is I have to choose if I want to date men or women.
Yup. The dilemma of the modern bi-sexual…who am I looking for? I have to make a choice. Before my LGBTI comrades in arms get all uppity…I am NOT saying I am choosing to be gay or straight…I am saying I have to choose which sexuality to identify with, since most dating sites are not down with the Kinsey scale.
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