Once upon a time, I promised to blog about the latest season of The Bachelorette on a weekly basis. I was truly committed to doing this, especially after getting so much feedback and discovering that I am not the only one who is (not-so-)secretly following The Extensioned One’s search for love.
But then, other things came up. Becky and I went to the Sex and the City 2 premiere and rambled on the radio. There were love poems to analyze and Hot Sex Prospects to hook up with. And…what else…I also had to eat and sleep and wash my hair…
Okay, fine, you got me. Truth be told, a small but significant part of me dies every time I sit down to write intelligent, thoughtful things about a show where guys look earnestly into a camera and say things like “She means the world to me” and “I’m going to prove that I love Ali!” after only knowing the girl for a few days.
But a deal is a deal! And let’s face it – I’m going to keep watching. If I don’t blog about it, then I’ll have to admit that I’m watching it solely for my own enjoyment, and not for some greater societal purpose. And that can’t happen.
So just in time for tonight’s new episode…
Check out this great Sirens Magazine article about young female entrepreneurs by the lovely and talented Julia Bartz – featuring us! We’re absolutely thrilled to be mentioned alongside the other women profiled here, all of whom are doing awesome and inspiring work.
Also – didn’t know that Becky and I went to band camp together? Well, now you do.
Check out these numbers from a recent study released by the Pew Research Center (and reported by The New York Times):
“…intermarriage among Asian, black, Hispanic and white people now accounts for a record 1 in 6 new marriages in the United States.”
“…black-white unions make up 1 in 60 new marriages today, compared with fewer than 1 in 1,000 back when Barack Obama’s parents wed a half-century ago.”
“…among newly married couples, 14.6 percent were mixed in 2008, compared with 11.2 percent in 2000 and 8.3 percent in 1990.”
“Of all 3.8 million adults who married in 2008, 31 percent of Asians, 26 percent of Hispanic people, 16 percent of blacks and 9 percent of whites married a person whose race or ethnicity was different from their own. Those were all record highs.”
Those are some awesome stats. Long story short, love is crossing racial boundaries more and more often. And within our generation’s constant reexamination of marriage and commitment, it looks like we’re reimagining the role that race should play – or should not play – in our relationships. Nice.
Those of you who have met me and Becky know that she is the organized one. In 8th grade, Becky had all her pens, pencils and highlighters color-coded in a stylish little pencil box (probably the sexiest one that Big Top sold). I, on the other hand, was always digging around in my overflowing backpack, hands covered in uncapped chapstick and leaky Snapple bottles, for a writing utensil. And then I’d inevitably turn around in my chair and ask Becky if I could borrow one from her. I like to think this is a representation of our entire friendship and business partnership.
Luckily, I’ve learned to combat my disorganization with lists. They’re usually written on pieces of scrap paper that I lose within the hour, but still, they help. And as you may have noticed, I find them useful even in my love life! Lists of Non-Dates, list of dah guys, lists of guys who AREN’T dah guys…you get the point. All of them enable me to place a bit of structure and perspective on my weird little post-dating love life.
Yesterday I got a beautiful tattoo (<3 to Joe Mags at BK Ink!) So in the spirit of pleasurable pain, I thought we could delve into the tempestuous love universe of my favorite poetess, Gaspara Stampa.
Hey guys! Listen to our interview with the magnificent and insightful Roxanne Neilson here.
and do check out Zonta – an organization that does amazing work for women worldwide.
Talk about money well spent! Last week, the Wall Street Journal ran a piece about “Bryant Park’s Sex Engineer” – that would be Daniel A. Biederman, the president of the Bryant Park Corp. – who focuses the park’s initiatives on pleasing women since women are 1. more discriminating than men when it comes to park amenities and safety 2. more desirable to have around in large numbers. In fact, making Bryant Park at any given lunch hour at least 52% female would make the park “Nirvana for some of us.” Well rub my belly and call me Buddha!
For a few minutes, at least.
Tomorrow – Wednesday, June 2nd – Becky and I will be appearing on our hometown regional radio station WVOX as part of the Zonta Women’s Community Radio Project. The show will air from 11:30am-12pm and will be streaming live on www.wvox.com. Or, if you’re lucky enough to live in Westchester County (where Becky and I met 15 years ago at an overcrowded middle school lunch table), the Bronx, Queens or Long Island, then you can tune in to 1460 AM and listen to us that way.
The Girls. The Giddiness. The Fashion. The Fabulous.
All were present and decked out at the Radio City Music Hall World Premiere of Sex and the City 2. Jess & I had a blast gawking at Mr. Big,crowding Donald Trump and saluting the stunning looks of SJP & co. In fact, 51st & 6th boasted the most intense concentration of neon and sparklesto date on planet earth. I couldn’t help but wonder…what is it about this iconic show and set of films that continues to inspire awe, glee, and devotion?
At first glance, no television show seems to understand and embrace the post-dating world LESS than The Bachelor and its sister show The Bachelorette, which began its sixth season with new Bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky on Monday.
…to inform you that Jess and Becky are going to the Sex and the City 2 premiere in NYC tonight!
18 days ago, I decided to declare May “Jess, Stop Pretending You’re A Baller and Taking Cabs Everywhere” Month.
Growing up in the outskirts of NYC, I always swore to myself that I would never become one of those frivolous city dwellers who took cabs everywhere. Why waste so much money on taxis when you have access to one of the best subway systems in the world?! But then I moved to the city, and suddenly I was “hopping a cab” here, there and everywhere. Oh no, I’m running late! Hop a cab. These heels hurt! Hop a cab. It’s 2:00 am – I’ll get kidnapped if I walk those three blocks at this hour! Hop a cab. And my wallet suffered as a result.
So for the past few weeks, I’ve spent a lot of time on the subway. And lo and behold, it turns out that there are quite a few cute guys on the L train! As romantic optimists, Becky and I like to say that a romantic connection can happen anytime, anywhere. Including public transportation. Who knows…your soulmate could be sitting on the other side of that adorable Midwestern couple with the pull-out map…
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