We here at WTF?! are absolutely, positively swooooooning over this anniversary gift (even if we’re still torn on the concept of anniversary celebrations in general).
Techno-romance at its most heartfelt and creative, this is a perfect example of a smart and loving Millennial man stepping outside of the box to show how much he cares – with no cliche flowers, dinners or stale chocolates in sight.
dah guys, take note!
Can you take a relative stance to an issue like cheating? Especially when, these days, it may or may not be clear exactly what cheating is…??
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from WTF?!’s very own author and post-dating guru, Jess:
from The WTF?! Guest Blog:
Yesterday, Osama bin Laden found himself on a non-date with destiny, courtesy of a badass US strike force. We’d like to take this opportunity to thank President Obama and the men and women of our military and intelligence services for all of their work and dedication leading up to this successful mission. WTF?! We now live in a post-Osama world!
Hey, Post-Daters! Becky here. It’s been a while since I’ve regaled you with my thoughts on porn, Disney princesses, my f*cked up love life and what’s not to love about the men of our generation. I’ve been focused on WTF?! business matters. But now! I’m back to blogging full time and can’t wait to be talking about poetry, libidinous TV shows, and WTF is up with media coverage on love and Millennials these days. And – of course – I’m excited to fill you in on the dah quandaries, triumphs and disasters of my love life, lately. So – ready or not – here we go!
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Let’s recap (with photos!):
For the love of God (or ice cream or Princess Kate or The Office or whatever you pledge your personal spiritual allegiance to)…
DON’T DO WHAT THIS GUY DID.
Sure – that’s what I thought too, when Becky explained the concept to me on the fated day when we met in a crowded coffee shop in Soho.
The idea that I had multiple men in my life who fulfilled my different needs sounded crazy. I’m a one-man-kinda-gal, and I’d often argued (and still do, if you have read anything else I’ve written on this site) that our generation’s incessant search for “something better” is ruining even the best of relationships. Dating & Hookup sounded to me like yet another SJP-like excuse to not “settle” (or settle down), and thus another tool for us to avoid being satisfied with anything. And I was sure that spreading yourself thin – in this case, across the men in your dah – would never be a conducive way to get to know anyone, especially not to the extent that you’d decide to start dating him or her exclusively.
It wasn’t until I really digested the idea of Dating & Hookup that I realized it wasn’t about dating, or even potentially dating, tons of men.
Instead, it was about associating them with what was going on in your life RIGHT NOW. It turns out that you CAN have a dah and stay classy and true to yourself. You can even have a dah if you’re in a committed relationship (that’s a whole other guest blog). Your dah is NOT about dating multiple men – it’s about “figuring out who you are, what you want and ultimately what kind of relationship you’re looking for” (to explicitly quote Dating & Hookup glossary).
I don’t have men who fit into all ten of Dating & Hookup molds, but that’s not the point. You probably have at least two members of Dating & Hookup in your life, right this very second. Again, even if you are in a relationship! This is the post-dating world, and there are way too many opportunities to have guys in your life in “unromantic” ways. If you don’t allow yourself to recognize the other men in your life as part of your dah, then you may actually start to wonder if they ARE a threat to your relationship.
Still not sure if you have a dah? Need a point of comparison? Let me introduce you to MY current dah. In WTF?!-land, we sometimes call this “Taking A dah Inventory.” You should try it.
As sky-aiming Millennials, we’re always looking for ways to improve our love lives (and hey, why not – our sex lives, too!). And if the myths of marriage are to be believed, then there is one particular issue that often needs improvement. Supposedly, after settling into a relationship, men stop doing chores – and women stop wanting to have sex. Both parties end up pretty bummed about it.
One trailblazing woman believes that she has found a solution: whoring yourself out to your partner.
Trust us, it’s more tempting than it sounds…
Well, that’s all fine and good, but we know that some of you might be looking for something a little more…old-fashioned. So how about throwing water on them and hitting their legs with pussywillows? That’ll be sure to get their attention.
Of course, if you live in a Polish American community, then you probably already knew that. And you might’ve spent all day yesterday doing it.
I’m taking a stand. Here. Now. This second.
I’m sick of everyone being able to celebrate how goddamned long they’ve been in a relationship…when I’m supposedly a loser for being alone. You have your one-month anniversaries, your five-year anniversaries, your golden and silver and whateverthehell else kind of symbolic metal anniversaries, and everyone showers you with gifts. Woopdi-shit. I’m just fucking sick of it.
I want my own party! Someone needs to give me presents for being single.
This outburst is in light of another wedding invitation I received in the mail yesterday. I was thinking to myself, no one gives me presents for being single. No one throws rice or blows bubbles at me because I DON’T have a long-term boyfriend. Who says that I’m supposed to even want that?! I mean, I DO. But every year that I don’t have a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day, I’m made by the media to think that I’m some kind of deformed leper-franken-quasimoto-zombie. It’s ridiculous.
I propose (yes, propose) that we single people start having Singleversaries. The Singleversary is the day when you can be proud that you’ve lived this much of your life without being codependent, abused, thwarted, held back or emotionally sabotaged by a relationship.
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