So four days ago, I moved back from Manhattan into a new neighborhood in Brooklyn – which is really exciting, because I love the overall cultural and community-oriented vibe of Brooklyn, and also because I love raising my hands at parties when the DJ yells “Where Brooklyn at?!” Yet as it tends to go when you suddenly pick up your life and drop it off in another zip code, as soon as I got my boxes in the door of my new place, I couldn’t help but feel strange that I was suddenly a stranger in a bit of a strange land again.
Where was the best coffeeshop in this ‘hood? Which bodega should I be frequenting multiple times a day? How was I supposed to know which nearby street had a mailbox?
In an effort to give myself a crash course in New Neighborhood Awesomeness 101, I called up one of the more adventurous guys in my dah and asked him to go on a little adventure-non-date with me to explore my new digs. We’ll call him…let’s call him an Accessory for now, cool? With our busy schedules, we hadn’t gotten to see much of each other lately. And so I figured, instead of meeting for dinner or blah blah blah, we should venture out together for something a little more exciting.
What followed was an incredibly fun adventure-non-date that we ended up recording with the new Volkswagen SmileDrive app (more on that in a bit!). The whole outing reminded me that getting off the beaten path and throwing spontaneity into the mix can be the perfect way to co-create an experience with a member of your dah that will strengthen your bond and give you a ton of new memories to giggle over later.
Adventure-non-dates. I seriously recommend them.
If you’re looking to shake things up with a member of your dah, here are my tried-and-tested tips for planning the perfect adventure-non-date.
With Major League Baseball season starting on April 1st, I’m stoked to get to the ballpark. But although I have a longstanding love of baseball, I know not everybody does. As the weather warms up and the games get underway, though, I’d like to encourage people to consider attending a baseball game—minor league, major league, doesn’t matter—as a date and/or non-date activity. And I absolutely have some reasons to convince you:
Outdoor activities! Sunshine and fresh air!
This has been a loooonnngg winter for most of the Midwest and East Coast. Sometimes the only thing that kept me from losing my mind during one of several snowstorms was the memory of sitting outside at my favorite ballpark on a warm spring day. People are going to be looking for any reason to get outside this spring. I suggest making baseball your reason.
Two people? A full-blown group? Either way, you’re set to socialize.
When you purchase your ticket for the game, you automatically get a hard, plastic seat (or space on a bleacher) where you can watch the action and enjoy the ambiance of the stadium. If it’s you and one other person in attendance, sitting side-by-side is fine for making conversation, but maybe you’d rather go with a group. No problem. Most ballparks have a ton of other places where you can socialize while still watching the game: restaurants within the stadium, patios, green spaces, etc.
the agony and the irony, they’re killing me”
Flowers. Chocolate. Candlelight. Classy restaurants. Dinner and a movie. Phone conversations. Private jets to Vegas (anyone else been watching The Bachelorette?).
These traditional symbols of romance are unmistakable. We’ve seen them in movies, read about them in Nicholas Sparks novels, watched them on popular dating shows, and heard about them in the courtship tales of our mothers and grandmothers. Yet if you’re a single, modern women today (and that category includes young professionals, college co-eds, small-town girls, divorced MILFs and all women in between), then you’ve probably been wondering…why isn’t this happening in my own love life?! Instead of encountering handsome men and hearing, “It was great to meet you – can I take you for dinner on Saturday?”, why am I drowning in a dizzying storm of text messages and mixed signals and ambiguous interactions and missed connections?
In short – how can I feel so confident and empowered about my career, my friends, my family, my hobbies, my dreams and my fashion choices…but feel so bewildered and powerless in my love life?
An easy way to meet prospects for romance or hooking-up is in a group of friends. The pressure is off, with fewer chances of awkward silences in group situations. Enter SXSW: a huge international music, film, technology, comedy, fashion and ecology conference that happens every March in Austin, Texas. Austin is known for having a large population of Peter Pan Syndrome men among the women who live here. Because of this, we look forward to SXSW and the men it draws from every corner of the globe.
What time is it? Time for Blogologues, of course!
This Monday, September 26th, come to the Under Saint Marks and see the best twitter feeds and blog posts acted out by the hilarious cast of lively productions! If it was funny and on the web and should not be spoken about in polite company, it’s gonna be on Blogologues. And you get a free beer with ticket purchase. Really, what more could you ask for?
Lights. Camera. WTF?!
Blogologues: Sex, Drugs and Interwebs was such an incredible success that Lively Productions decided they can’t leave you all hanging. That’s right, this Saturday Post-Daters of New York can flood into Under Saint Marks Theater and see Blogologues: I Need a Vocation – featuring a blog post taken from the WTF?! website!
Want tickets? Just go to www.smarttix.com and search for Blogologues.
Come, bring friends, grab a beer and see the best (and most hilarious) postings from the web!
Well, that’s all fine and good, but we know that some of you might be looking for something a little more…old-fashioned. So how about throwing water on them and hitting their legs with pussywillows? That’ll be sure to get their attention.
Of course, if you live in a Polish American community, then you probably already knew that. And you might’ve spent all day yesterday doing it.
WE’RE HAVING A PARTY! And you’re invited. Details above. Guess you’d better brush up on the latest WTF-worthy news so that you have something to talk to your new dah member about once you get there…
*Oh, techno-romance. We’re still not over this video! Story of your life? (YouTube)
*Grindr is going straight! The incredibly popular and influential proximity-based gay dating app is trying out a new hetero-women-friendly platform. The puzzle? How to make it actually appealing to women. Because, let’s face it – as Grindr’s founder says, we ladies get hit on enough as it is. We’re looking for more of a…well-rounded techno-romance experience. Will Grindr crack our code and blow up in the straight community as well? $15 says that Becky will be the first chick to try it out! (and then blog about it, of course) (Guardian)
*Have an ex that won’t let go? One who insists on texting you at all times (including/mostly when drunk)? You’re not alone! Twitter brings you a new stream of unbelievable texts from exes. Corny, scandalous, pathetic…love hurts when it’s over. (Twitter)
*Gentlemen: just say NO to Russell Stovers for Valentine’s Day! Unless you’re buying for Jess, in which case, yesplsthx. But if you want to get your lady something special for V-Day – something that you can’t buy at Duane Reade – then here is the personal shopper you always needed, complete with built-in reminders for special occasions you might be forgetting. Because really, what good is your BlackBerry calendar if it doesn’t automatically remind you to buy flowers on your 3.5-month anniversary? (Thoughtful.co)
*Finally, the truth! Authenticity, not masculinity, is the key to a woman’s success in the office. So now it’s official. We’re going to take a deep breath, say one last goodbye, and donate all our shoulder padded power suits to the Salvation Army. (The New York Times)
*If your lease is almost up, you might want to reconsider renewing. The Daily News has just released the best places for “singles” (ugh) to live in NYC – and two of the top ten are in our neighborhood! We will neither confirm nor deny the quality of “single life” in these parts. But cute single boys, if this convinces you to relocate here, then so be it. (NY Daily News)
*We love having a dah in NYC. And so should you! Doesn’t this sound pretty awesome? “Our status as single, independent, financially solvent New York City women in the year 2011 has us sitting on a mountain of unprecedented options.” Seems like someone at The Village Voice has a dah and isn’t afraid to embrace it! This writer’s advice for finding love without settling or waging emotional warfare on the men of your city? “The wild and crazy kisser who actually broke your front tooth, which then required dental work; the guy who taught you to always ask for Sriracha in your deviled eggs; the man who introduced you to Wolf Parade; the man who introduced you to really good bourbon; the guy with kids who helped you remember why you do, or don’t, want them for yourself; the bisexual co-worker; the “poonhound”; the one that got away; and the one you let get away on purpose—they all have a place in your dating life. Don’t regret them.” (Village Voice)
*WORKING MOMS ARE GOING TO DESTROY THE WORLD! Haven’t you heard? The latest is a ‘scientific study’ proving that mothers’ work schedules are to blame for childhood obesity. Which leads to the question – WTF is up with this headline?! (Fox News)
*Thankfully, we have this great piece about working moms from Tina Fey to even things out. Is anyone else suddenly yearning for a Sarah-Palin-at-home-with-her-kids impression? (Flavorwire)
*Another role model? Check out this interview with Atlantic Records’ Julie Greenwald – who was also named Billboard’s #1 Woman in Music for 2010 – and let us know if she makes the cut. Also make sure to absorb some of her insightful management tips, while you’re at it. (The New York Times)
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Tomorrow in NYC Happenings, The Bowery Poetry Club is hosting Basseyworld Live! at 7pm. Brought to you by 5 x Def Poetry Jam Poet Bassey Ikpi, the night will feature an illustrious panel discussion about pop culture, politics and relationships (intertwined with Bassey’s poetry of course!).
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