Oh, how are the mighty fallen!
Daily Intel “feels bad” for snickering, but makes the fair enough point that romance / life / career self-help author Karen Salmasohn fell for the oldest line in the book when she started an affair with a married man who claimed he was divorcing his wife, got knocked up, and then was shocked (and is suing him) because it turns out he’s still very much married and very much NOT getting divorced.
My heart truly does go out to her; it’s a crummy situation all around. I would certainly feel shocked, betrayed and misled. The worst case scenario in any dating & relationships universe is to feel like you can’t take anyone at their word. As women, it sucks to feel at the mercy of circumstance (and of men) – we want to feel empowered. Is there really a fine line between being smart and open to possibility…and being paranoid, suspicious, mistrustful and defensive…?
I have to believe there’s a way to harness the ambiguity and uncertanty of modern relationships and work it to our advantage. That’s what Jess & I are all about figuring out. But with that comes the responsibility to live as best we can according to the empowerment we’re all striving for.
So Jess – if I EVER catch you kissing a hot male under a waterfall - it’s OVER!
Rebecca Coale - aka Becky - is a writer, musician and producer. She and childhood best friend Jessica Donalds created Dating & Hookup and founded J&R Creative Media. Becky blogs about love poetry and modern life & womanhood. She lives with her husband, Howard Coale, and their family in Manhattan and Philadelphia.
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