Have you ever wished for more realness in online dating? Settle For Love, a new dating website, has your back. Their tagline is “embrace perfection”, and they ask all users to list their pros and cons. You can even add photos in your list. For example, on their Kickstarter page, they play a pretty sad video of a lonely guy with thinning hair using the website to “settle” for love. He posts a photo of his balding mane along with the caption, “My hair is fading fast…” and a few other cons:
You also fill out a box that says “will settle for.” So this is one dating site that’s pretty blunt about the whole thing.
Unfortunately, dating users may not be ready for such realness. Their Kickstarter shows that they were seeking $45,000, and could only raise $1,532. I don’t know exactly why (although I have a few theories) ; they seem to offer everything that turns most people off about “real life” dating — namely, playing games and not getting to the point. As they say in their video:
“Stop playing games. Be the real you. Have fun. Find love.” Sounds like a good plan, right?
I suppose people are too shy to really stop playing games and be they real you. Asking users to list their personal pros and cons requires real honesty on the part of the user. Or maybe, people really don’t want to “settle for love.” Maybe people are holding out for that big, all-encompassing, breathless sort of love, and they’re turned off by the idea of settling.
Though I’m fortunate enough to have found love, in the spirit of the site, I’m going to list my own pros and cons when it comes to dating.
Weirdly, it was easier for me to list my cons than it was to list my pros. What does that say about me?
If I were single, I might consider Settle for Love. I think it’s refreshing to list flaws along with the good, though I hate the idea behind the site — that you’re settling. I think that might be part of the reason people were reluctant to get on board. No one wants to think that they’re settling for anything.
Would you sign up for this dating site?
Images via SettleForLove.
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
datingandhookup.com is a website that explores modern romance in the Millennial era – which, let’s be honest, looks nothing like we were taught to expect. We feature essays, advice and social commentary with humor, compassion and brains, and we vow never, ever to publish a piece called “The 10 Best Ways to Satisfy Your Man in Bed”. Do click to submit your work to us. We love you.
Follow Dating & Hookup on Instagram
Follow Jess on Instagram
Follow Becky on Instagram
Follow me on Twitter