Two magnificent, unprecedented events occurred on consecutive days last week. Tuesday evening, at approximately 6pm, a meeting of incredible minds took place at a premise-y bar/restaurant in Studio City, California. Yes, dear ones, the people behind Dating & Hookup did happy hour.
Our group of eight women and one man planted in a corner booth and proceeded to meet, greet, and discuss the pluses and minuses of being Millenials plopped into a world filled with outdated dating expectations. With Jess and Becky in town from New York, it was the perfect opportunity for us all to put faces to names and get to know each other outside the vortex that is The Internet.
Now I, personally, have only been involved with Dating & Hookup for about two weeks, so I knew little-to-nothing about most of the people I met. That didn’t stop me from falling in love. Wait, no, love isn’t the right word. Guys, I have a heterosexual girl-crush. Her name is Grace DeVoll, and she probably thinks it’s pretty weird that I’m writing all of this two days after I met her. While I might be moving a little quickly, I feel the need to point out the merits of this girl-crush by comparing it with your average, run of the mill, guy-crush.
As opposed to the slow, building burn of my traditional crushes, I can pinpoint the precise moment my girl-crush began: Grace arrived at the bar with her shirt on inside out, and explained to everyone that she had spilled something on it earlier in the day. This is an excuse that makes sense, and no one would think to question. Upon our mutual departure from the establishment, however, she turned to me and admitted “I didn’t spill anything at all. I took my shirt off for the car ride over here (she was wearing a tank top underneath, so pick yourself up off the floor) because it was hot and my AC doesn’t work, and I accidentally put it back on inside out.” That moment, folks, is when I knew.
A heterosexual girl-crush has no preconceived rules or social pressures to conform to. There was no self-imposed awkwardness in getting her number! There is no stigma regarding who texts whom first! There are no expectations about holding doors or pulling out chairs or putting a jacket over a puddle or other acts of general chivalry!
Number three is where the second magnificent and unprecedented event comes into play. With last Wednesday’s Supreme Court ruling on both Prop. 8 and DOMA, my girl-crush has become even MORE socially acceptable! Granted, I find it highly unlikely that I will end up taking advantage of the abolition of those nasty laws, as I am generally attracted to men. But damn, it’s nice to know that if one day I met the person of my dreams and she was a woman, I could be in her hospital room when she was sick, receive the same Social Security benefits as every other married couple, and most of all, have a fabulous wedding.
Grace is upfront about what she wants. My first ever text from her read: “So nice to meet you! Most of my time is spent watching tv in my sweatpants, but if you’re into that kind of socializing, we should hang out sometime?” Why yes, yes I am, and yes we should.
Overall, this heterosexual girl-crush on Grace is much more manageable than any guy-crush I’ve experienced. To all you other ladies that I met at our dah Gathering, it’s not that I didn’t thoroughly enjoy our time together. It’s just that…..your shirts were right-side-out.
Thank you HerCampus for the photo!
Jen Kleinrock is the Social Media Editor at Dating & Hookup. She lives in Los Angeles, but was reared in Nashville, Tennessee, where you always hear Country Music whether you're downtown, at the mall, at the gynocologist, at the park, in the bathroom, behind the fridge, or up on the roof. Moving to LA meant she could finally take out her earplugs. And the whole world rejoiced.
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