I am a Christian who is weirded out by Christian Mingle.
In case you’re unfamiliar, Christian Mingle is a Christian dating site known for its audacious tagline, “Find God’s match for you.” In the last year, Christian Mingle has grown in notoriety thanks to an extensive marketing campaign. The ads are all over television—especially “Christian” programming like The History Channel’s The Bible–and the ads frequently appear on my Facebook sidebar as well (probably because I’m a Christian, though I am not single).
With its bold tagline and slightly awkward name, it’s no surprise that Christian Mingle has become a popular brunt of jokes. Occasionally trending on Twitter, the hashtag has appeared alongside snarky comments like,
It’s a good thing God licenses his romance database to #ChristianMingle.
I just saw a commercial for #ChristianMingle.com and I couldn’t help but think they should change it to firstbaseonly.org
Gabriel Garcia Marquez, in one of his short stories, gives life to a puppet for one day. The puppet is surprised by many things. He finds that humans believe that when you grow old you stop falling in love. But the puppet says,”I think it’s the other way around. When people stop falling in love they grow old.”
Does Nelson Mandela ever seem old?
But love isn’t all music and roses. Many years ago, in the middle of the war in El Salvador, a woman came to me for advice. She was a poor country woman, a campesina. Like all her neighbours she was a strong Catholic in a world where secularisation hadn’t made inroads.
A recent article in Christianity Today discusses a growing number of single Christian women who may be [sinfully?] “dating” Jesus Christ and hence, running the danger of not opening themselves up emotionally to real human beings — aka potential partners. Hmm. Interesting. Naturally, it propelled me to examine my own walk in this rather complex 21st century post-dating world.
I can’t deny that the write up is squarely describing someone like me. I’m a self-sufficient woman who is finding satisfaction and contentment in the season that God has me in at this time — among many things, that includes being single.
But wait, let me repeat that because I don’t want you to miss an important point — I’m finding satisfaction in the season of life I’m in — and among many things, that includes being single. I draw attention to that particular point because I believe that our marital status doesn’t (and shouldn’t) be the sole defining factor of our lives. And I find that society sometimes puts a tad bit too much emphasis on whether someone is married or single. Without fail, it is always a top question during dinners with friends and family get-togethers. Are you dating anyone?
From time to time, I like to take a step back and ponder on how I got to where I am today. No, I’m not just talking about my career, marital status or how much money I have in the bank. I’m talking about my character — my soul. As a woman who is finding more of her existence strongly driven by Christian values, I now operate based on a different set of standards. Let’s just say that receiving God caused the ultimate transformation — and soon after, my world began to look very differently. In my pursuit to understand life under a new lens, I recall past experiences and people who have come in and out of my life that help put the world in context. And somehow, I believe that remembering those life accounts serves a meaningful purpose — it’s so that every now and then, my consciousness can reverse itself, flash the I that once was and be humbly reminded of how far I’ve come. Sounds like a productive walk, yes? Yes, if my thoughts stopped there, where the sun is shining and the birds are chirping. But going down this road also resurfaces unfinished business that I have worked hard to convince myself is a chapter in my book long closed. Oh you know, we all have those regrets — the kind that we wish we’d forgotten, but are still an issue? And on a deep (like, I’m talking really deep here) level, they actually still affect our decisions today.
My mom and sisters made this to protest the Catholic Bishops criticism of nuns for *gasp* taking a principled stand on issues.
Read more in The New York Times:
Vatican Reprimands a Group of U.S. Nuns and Plans Changes
Nuns on the Frontier (it turns out American Nuns have a pretty badass history)
Read Alison’s Takedown on WTF?!: Catholic Church Cracks Down on American Nuns and Their “Radical Feminist Views”
(photo credit: Rebecca Wiegand)
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