Have any of you read “Girl with a Scrabble Tattoo, a Missed Connection Swirls Out of Control“? It is one of our most popular Guest Blogs, ever. While it’s a good and (totally crazy!) piece, I think it also succeeds because of the just unending fascination with Missed Connections. It’s that voyeurism, loneliness and a sense of “what could have been” all wrapped up in one.
When I lived in New York, I knew a girl who kept getting Missed Connections posted about her. She was the barista at my local coffee shop. Apparently, this one guy just kept posting about her but never spoke to her even though he seemed to buy coffee from her all the time. She thought it was a little stalkerish (I agree.). Why not just ask the girl out? Or, you know, start with “Hi.”
There can be really something haunting about Missed Connections, I think. And a street art project, I Wish I Said Hello tackles this theme by using stickers to post Missed Connections in the places where they actually occurred. From their mouths exactly…
We find there’s something poetic about this desperate hope for the re-encounter, but also something very ironic about using the internet as the tool to achieve it. It turns out that in the era of social media, when we’re supposedly connected to anyone in the world, the network of missed connections is one of the most inefficient ones.
I Wish I Said Hello attempts to bring missed connection stories back to the public space in the form of street art.
Our goal is not to be another platform for reconnection, rather than a celebration of everyday poetics, a physical mapping of a digital network, a commentary on the role of technology in human communication.
Have you read any Missed Connections that appeared in your ‘hood? The project is collaborative.
PS. Does anyone know a story in which a Missed Connection lived happily ever after? Comment if you do. I’m curious.
Alison Steedman is the editor at Dating & Hookup. She lives in Los Angeles with her boyfriend and their histrionic cat, Charles Dickens, where she still carries on a nostalgic and long-distance love affair with her 20's in Brooklyn, NY. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram @yosteedman, and you can also send her your writing at [email protected], both of which make her very happy.
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