I love androgynous men and I can sum that up in two words: David Bowie.
Yes, I hold Sir David Robert Jones entirely responsible for my fascination with androgynous men and that’s just hunky dory with me.
It’s not that I only date men who look better in skinny jeans than I do (although that always happens). It isn’t that I always date men who are prettier than I am (that has happened). I don’t choose it. It’s just what attracts me. Not always, but more than not.
A lot of people don’t understand this. Especially men. They’re baffled. And I understand why. Most of the adult male’s life, is, I believe, about being strong, muscular, hard, unfeeling, and you know, manly. And what does that all mean? What does “manly” really mean? Is David Bowie not really a man because he wore eyeliner and tights? He got so many women, though!
I really don’t mean to offend anyone with this piece. I hate the idea of fetishizing a group of people. I’m saying, let’s be honest, we all have certain looks we’re attracted to. Some men like women who are “natural” looking (like the no-make-up make-up. Like Gwyneth Paltrow or something.) Others are into Zooey Deschanel-type girls. The quirky ones. Some dudes are Courtney Stodden fanatics; big tits, big hair, big heels — that’s what they want. And I want men who are comfortable enough with their feminine side to not feel the need to wear a sports jersey every single day at every single waking moment.
And I realize that my type is not everyone else’s type. Some women think my type of guys is the absolute worst type to like. When Bowie sang, “You got your mother in a whirl/she’s not sure if you’re a boy or a girl” he was singing it while women were firmly shaking their heads, not Beatle-esque squee-ing of “OH MY GAAAAWD, YES!” And that’s okay!
But you find me a man who rocks skinny jeans better than I, and….well, that’s it for me.
What’s YOUR type?
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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