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My favorites are full of contradictions.
I love Mexican food but am allergic to avocados. Hold the guacamole, por favor.
I also really like cursing but have the voice of a small child—high-pitched with a slight lisp. People are always shocked to hear me say fuck (at least the first time).
Then there’s my passion for running, at its peak when I’m dashing to the donut shop.
This happens at least once a year, on Ryan’s birthday. I got the idea to celebrate with donuts instead of cake in 2009. At that point, we had gone on several road trips together, usually kicked off with a stop for breakfast. I would order an egg and cheese on a bagel and Ryan would order a half a dozen donuts. We’d both finish at the same time. Donuts, I realized, were his favorite.
And that’s how this contradiction-birthday-tradition began.
Two words from the improv community may help you smile more at members of the opposite sex than you’re normally comfortable smiling at.
“She worries, as I do, about getting fat.”
That’s a line from Michael Ian Black’s book on marriage and family. “She,” as you might have guessed, is his wife.
“She worries, as I do, about getting fat.”
Reading that, I felt something unexpected. I felt jealous.
How he said it—so matter-of-factly, so unselfconsciously—that’s what I wanted: to express this concern confident that it was normal.
But when I worry about getting fat, it’s more complicated.
Was It Really That Bad?
It’s been nearly 15 years since I had food issues. I still struggle with the term eating disorder. That sounds too official. I never saw a doctor or a therapist, was never hospitalized or diagnosed.
Was 2012 a bad year for you? Do you believe resolutions are pointless and setting you up for failure? Are you looking for a personal catchphrase to justify everything you do in the coming year (sorry, no more #YOLO)? Well fear no more and behold: four easy to use slogans for any situation and perfect for turning your self-deprecating bus to disappointment town around in 2013. Choose your own adventure this year, seize those 365 days, and pick the mantra that most resonates with you!
I knew I lived in the post-dating world when a guy I liked (at the time, he was the Boyfriend Prospect in my dah) invited me to a barbecue at his apartment…and then texted me telling me to bring my own meat… That’s right! The text message said:
Hey so gun for being ere by 7 or so tomorrow. We’ll have a little bit of food but not enough to sustain the masses so I’d suggest bringing something you’d like to grill
I was mortified. It felt like chivalry was really, truly dead – along with basic hospitality. I questioned whether he was really interested in me or not. I’d figured I was going on a group-non-date, but maybe this barbecue wasn’t going to be a non-date at all? Let alone a date? Some of my friends thought I was crazy for being upset – after all, shouldn’t I embrace the ambiguity and bring some really interesting, cool, reflective-of-my-personality kind of meat (pork butt?). I saw their point, but I felt even more confused since I had reacted so strongly the other way. All together now: WTF?!?!?!
Cut to present day. I was propelled on this trip down memory lane as I was reading IN THE SMALL KITCHEN: 100 RECIPES FROM OUR YEAR OF COOKING IN THE REAL WORLD by Cara Eisenpress and Phoebe Lapine – a cookbook + memoir that is a glorious counterpart to and refutation of that eternally distressing “bring your own meat” text message (which keeps cropping up at various times and in various forms from guys in my dah).
So let’s talk about these girls, their love lives, and their food… (read more)
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