Listen, I don’t claim to be some sort of love guru — I’m just a girl, with a computer, and a handful of opinions and a lot of experience. And thus, I have some ideas about dating. Specifically, long-distance dating. Business Insider reports that, “about 3 million married Americans and as many as half of US college students are in a long-distance relationship.” Look, I’ll be real — that shit is hard. But if you’ve got a plan, and the love is there, you can make it happen. So here are my tips on how to make a long-distance relationship work. Hope they help! (And to those in LDRs, tell me how you do it. Let’s pull our resources!)
Have a deadline.
Okay, so this one sounds weird. Let me explain what I mean. I don’t mean, have a point in your mind when you’re going to end the relationship. That is not what I mean by deadline. What I mean is, have an idea of when the distance will end — by means of one of you moving to be with the other one. Because when you have that date in mind, it makes the whole thing so much easier. Plus, it gives you something to look forward to!
Make the most of Skype.
Or video chat on on Gmail, or whatever! When I did long-distance dating, my (now ex) and I would watch movies together while we were both on Skype. Is it a little dorky? Totally. Will it make you feel more connected to your partner, despite the long distance? Totally. Use technology to help you out. It’s great for catching up on the fly, and great for helping you date.
Be old school romantic about it.
Write each other letters! Long, lovely love letters. There’s something about seeing someone’s actual handwriting that makes you feel close to that person. Send each other photos, too. Actual photos, not digital photos. Which doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t email or text entirely — hell, no. Do both! Have the emails and the love letters. Embrace it.
Have a visiting schedule.
Depending on where you live, it can be really hard to see each other regularly, and I totally get that. But it’s important to have scheduled visits, even if those visits are far apart. You need to make plans and have those plans set it stone. Again, it doesn’t just give you something to look forward to, but it makes the whole experience easier to deal with.
How do you make a long-distance relationship work?
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Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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