This week, I discussed how to stay friends after the friends with benefits relationship ends. Now I’m focusing on how to keep the benefits, AKA, how to have a successful friends with benefits relationship.
First, as with any relationship, and you’re gonna hate me for saying this but, YOU GOTTA HAVE “THE TALK”. Both parties need to know exactly what’s up. It doesn’t have to be a long and serious talk; a general “Hey, so this is what I’m thinking, how about you?” sort of talk will work.
Then, you have to let your expectations align with what you discussed. Do not expect a relationship if it was made perfectly clear that this will not lead to that.
And that’s the hardest part about friends with benefits relationships and where they go awry: people tend to catch feelings, and rarely is it at the same time. Not many true FWB situations turn into a Barney and Robin relationship. (Really old How I Met Your Mother spoiler, sorry). Most of the time, the friendship and the FWB relationship is destroyed.
So in order to keep the benefits going, you have to know what to expect, and what not to expect. If you think you can handle this type of relationship, and you’re both consenting adults, go for it. If you think there’s even the slightest chance you’ll develop deeper feelings, this is not for you. Don’t lie to yourself.
Don’t make the mistake of referring to your friend with benefits as your boyfriend or girlfriend. You may say that because it’s easier to explain, but it’s very confusing.
You want to keep things light and fun. That’s what the relationship should be about: fun.
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