You want to have a romantic date. Who doesn’t right? There’s nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with wanting one of those nights that feels like a Disney film starring Audrey Hepburn. But the thing is, you don’t want it to be fussy. You don’t want it to seem like you tried to hard. So what do you do? You follow these tips for how to have a romantic non fussy date.
You want to barely plan. You want an idea, a time, and a place. And that’s it. To some people that sounds like too much; to others, too little. All you need is a time to meet up and a place and an idea of what you’ll do as soon as you see each other. So let’s say you want to meet at the Griffith Observatory. Boom, there’s your place. Now pick a time. Now decide what you’ll do when you’ll get there. “I thought we’d first take a look at the Leonard Nimoy section” — boom, there’s your idea. That’s all you need. Don’t worry about what happens after that. Boom. I like saying “boom.”
Most dates involve food. For example, if you’re meeting at the Observatory, you’re going to need to plan for dinner or lunch either there or elsewhere. It’s okay if you don’t have the exact place in mind, but you need an idea. For example, maybe you’d like to go to a restaurant on Vermont. Have one or two in mind. Then go there when you’re getting hungry. That’s all you need. Boom.
Ladies love compliments, but ladies who date dudes, what we don’t realize is that dudes need compliments too. If you tell a guy you like his shirt, he’ll wear that shirt for the rest of the year. So you’d better mean it. No, but seriously, if you think your dude looks good, tell him. Guys don’t get compliments enough, and they spend a lot of time getting ready for dates. Put him in the right mood. “I love your hair” or “That’s a great color on you” or “Hot damn your jeans make your ass look BOOM” — these are all great compliments.
There is nothing more romantic than being captured on Instagram. Okay, I’ll explain. If you really like someone a lot and they take a photo of you and post it on THEIR Instagram, that’s like a big deal. It makes you feel attractive and happy. And that’s not shallow. That’s just fine. It’s the simple pleasures in life, right? If you don’t have Instagram, that’s fine, just take photos of your date. If it’s a good date, you’ll want them later. If it’s a bad date, you’ll look at them and laugh. Or cry, whatever, I don’t know your life. Boom.
What ideas can YOU think of for a romantic non fussy date?
Photo credit: “Abalone Picnic”, John Florea, 1944 for LIFE via LIFE photo archives for Google.
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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