None of us want to admit that we’d dress to impress our ex, but many of us would. It makes sense. You’ve been with someone for a year (or however long, or even short) and you’ve shared things and done things and showed glimpses of your soul and now they’re suddenly straight-up Gotye (just somebody that you used to know). But you see on that Facebook invite they clicked “going” and you’re “going” and you’re sure as hell not gonna wear sweatpants.
Look, it doesn’t make you less of a feminist if you want to look nice/hot/pleasing to the eye for your ex. It’s not like you’re trying to get your ex back, you just want them to know that you’re doing fine without them, nay – smashing.
Here’s how to dress to impress your ex.
This is the big secret. It’s not like there’s one answer to the question and that answer is a tight red bandage-style dress. It’s whatever makes you feel hottest and most confident. For some people, that’s a pair of killer jeans and a low cut tank top. For others, it’s a little black dress with skyscraper worthy heels. Everyone has one outfit or at least one item of clothing that makes them feel invincible. Wear that.
“Trying to hard” is wearing an Elie Saab gown to a barbeque. Yes, you should wear what you feel the most attractive in, but you have to keep the setting in mind, otherwise, you’re gonna look like you tried waaaay too hard.
Do you wear foundation everyday? No? Then don’t slap it on just for your ex. If you hate a certain kind of makeup, like eyeliner for example, don’t feel you have to wear it in order to look hot. You want to look like the hottest version of you, not the hottest version of someone else.
Got a tiny waist? Accentuate it with a belt. Nice big lips? Time for red lipstick. Get the idea? It will make you feel good, and when you feel good, you look good, and when you look good, your ex is like, “Damn.” Just sayin.
Nothing is less attractive than constant bitch-face. Have fun. Leave the stress behind you. It’s party time. Don’t be freaked out that your ex is at the party. If you see them, don’t pretend you don’t. Go up to them and say hello. Remember: they’re people too. We’re all just people, trying to do our best.
What are YOUR tips?
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Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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