I’ve written before about ladies who propose marriage to their gentlemen, like the girl who proposed to her guy with a pillow fort. But I’ve never seen a woman propose marriage to her man via song, and that’s exactly what this couple did. While leading the audience in song, Lisa Lewis threw a twist in there and proposed to boyfriend David Runco Gibbs during their set. Everyone cheered and it was lovely.
To Lisa, I say, that is pretty badass. We see so many romantic proposals where dudes are proposing to their ladies, but so few ladies proposing to dudes! And why is that? I think we’ve just become so sold on a certain “this is the way it has to be” mentality. I can’t even think of a moment in pop culture where a woman proposed to a man. Only 5 percent of married couples say that the woman proposed. I’m trying to picture a big rom com ending with the girl proposing to the guy, and I just can’t see it happening.
And again, why is that? I’ve also read countless women’s magazines and bridal magazines and not once have I seen an article about proposing to your man. But I would totally read that article! Would I ever propose to a guy one day? Probably not, simply for fear he’d say no, because my self esteem is pretty much shot. To me, proposing marriage to a person seems like the scariest thing someone can do, I’m amazed anyone does it at all, let alone in a room full of people during a performance. All the more reason why Lisa is totally bad ass.
Here’s the video:
I think, sadly, it also takes the “right kind of man” to accept a woman’s proposal. It may take a few more decades for the tide to turn, though. The same study says, “Young adults are more likely than their elders to consider it “unacceptable” for a woman to do the asking. More than one-third of those under age 30 disapprove.” I find that very surprising! I would have thought our generation was more on board with the rise of lady proposals. I wonder what’s holding us back? Personally, I blame the media. If we had more images of women proposing to men, it might not be that big of a deal. So who wants to take that first step?
Ladies, would you consider proposing to to your guy? Why or why not?
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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