Via 33 Things You Learn Hanging Around Mindy Kaling.
“She [Mindy Kaling] thinks the notion of guys being intimidated by women, by the way, is kind of bullshit. “I feel like I’ve met so many girls who say that: ‘Oh, he’ll be too intimidated.’ And I’m like, ‘No, you’re just terrible. That’s why they wouldn’t want to date you. It’s not because of some fake-y thing like intimidation.’ I’m supposed to appear less successful than I am? Yeah, it’s total crap.
…that I was staying in a fancy hotel and Kim Kardashian was in the room next to me. We had a long conversation at the doorway of her hotel room about Dating & Hookup, and I gave her a copy. She was petite compared to me (I’m 5’8.).
Also, later, I was walking behind her on the stairs at one point and the backs of her thighs were full of cellulite. This made me feel both happy and vindicated and then ashamed of my happiness and vindication.
I don’t know what to make of this, but I blame the fame engine.
Like everyone else, today I’m thinking about the wonderful writer Nora Ephron, who passed away last night. She did many great things, but I think her greatest must be “Julie and Julia,” which I’m going to go ahead and call one of the best, most feminist mainstream films ever.
I’m watching it right now and, maybe it’s the PMS talking, but I swear every other scene is making me cry:
In the months following a wedding, an ordinary couple might be expected to take some time off to go on a honeymoon or otherwise find a way to relax and revel in their recent nuptials. Not so for Jay-Z and Beyoncé—but then again, they aren’t any ordinary couple.
Though they did eventually sneak off for a honeymoon at a super-exclusive resort in Arizona, Jay-Z and Beyoncé had one of the busiest stretches of their professional lives around the time of their April 2008 wedding. The day before, the New York Times reported that Jay-Z was on the verge of signing ten-year, $150-million deal with concert promoter Live Nation; the day after, he flew to North Carolina to resume his concert tour. For her part, Beyoncé was putting the finishing touches on a new album.
In the two years following their marriage, both Jay-Z and Beyoncé released new albums and embarked upon massively successful international tours. But remarkably, they’ve been able to achieve something approaching a work-life balance, despite the fact that they’re two of the busiest people on the planet.
They’re frequently spotted stealing away for vacations in France, the Caribbean and elsewhere even in the midst of international tours and album recording. Being able to afford private jets is helpful, but their relationship is an interesting model to consider for those seeking advice on how to reconcile professional ambitions with personal fulfillment.
First, they were adopting (foreign) babies. Then they were getting pregnant en masse. And now, they’re challenging the very institution of marriage.
Damn, it’s impossible to keep up with the latest celebrity trends! The rich and the famous definitely like to keep it moving.
But for now, we have to wonder – is Hollywood trying to turn our post-dating world into a post-marriage world?
We’re not happy to hear that any relationship has run its course. Especially not one that features a couple as publicly odd and entertaining as Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver.
Yet here we are, reading announcements of their separation after 25 years of marriage. There’s got to be a post-dating lesson somewhere in there…
You might’ve noticed that, of the two of us, Becky is generally more likely to share revealing stories and outtakes from her love life than I am. Becky asks specific questions: I give general answers. Becky identifies the guys in her dah, or lack thereof: I tell her to buck up and provide some guidelines for starting fresh. Becky wonders if she’s been on a Date or Non-Date: I cast my anonymous vote.
I can be a pretty private person. But every once in a while, something is just so ridiculous and eye-opening that I can’t help but share it, and e-wonder aloud… Did that really just happen? And why do I suddenly feel the need to take a long, hot shower?
Like what happened last weekend.
When I woke up this morning, I was looking forward to blogging about any one of the many happy, light, optimistic topics that we chat about on this site. Maybe a new Bachelorette recap! Or how about some crazy new romance app? It’s about time that I make fun of Becky about something…
But instead, I woke up to countless emails and news reports about Chris Brown bawling at last night’s BET Awards. He danced, he cried, he made a pathetic (but seemingly effective) attempt to resurrect his career. And yet again, I feel compelled to take time out of my – and your – busy schedule to address the insane level of bullshit surrounding this story.
I believe in the body as a canvas for art - a template for design. I have no tattoos (that I’ll admit to) but I admire my friends who take creative self-expression to the bodily level (this means you Stevie!). What you emblazon on your skin must have a profound effect on your soul – just has to be.
So what is to be said of Vajazzling?! (<3 Marcail for sending this our way) Jennifer Love Hewitt raved about her post-break-up “vajazzled va-jayjay” on the George Lopez Show last month. So should we ladies all be clamoring to meld on swarovski chrystals down where the sun don’t shine? Completely Bare Spare guarantees their Vajazzles for 5 days!
Thanks to a recent Huffington Post slideshow, “The 9 Douchiest Things John Mayer Has Ever Said” (only nine?), I was reminded of this Mayer quote:
“Life is like a box of crayons. Most people are the 8-color boxes, but what you’re really looking for are the 64-color boxes with the sharpeners on the back. I fancy myself to be a 64-color box, though I’ve got a few missing. It’s ok though, because I’ve got some more vibrant colors like periwinkle at my disposal. I have a bit of a problem though in that I can only meet the 8-color boxes. Does anyone else have that problem? I mean there are so many different colors of life, of feelings, of articulation…so when I meet someone who’s an 8-color type…I’m like, ‘hey girl, magenta!’ and she’s like, ‘oh, you mean purple!’ and she goes off on her purple thing, and I’m like, ‘no – I want magenta!’”
I’m not going to comment on the douche factor. Mayer’s statements speak for themselves.
However, call me crazy (or fuchsia!), but I find this quote to be a colorful little injection of romantic optimism for us modern ladies out there.
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