A couple nights ago, I received this anonymous message on my blog. Needless to say, it made my blood boil in feminist rage. Who the hell is this guy? And more importantly, did he think his “advice” would be well received??
Hello dearest readers,
We’re going to be taking a little break here at Dating & Hookup for the Holidays. But we’ll be back on Wednesday. The happiest of holidays from our family to yours! (And here’s what we’re up to, after the jump!)
Alison, Becky, West, Jess & Heather
Real talk: I’ve been trying to think of something to write that relates to both the holiday season and relationships, and I’m coming up blank. The struggle has been so drawn-out that I honestly think it would be easier to write an article on preparing reindeer for flight in inclement weather.
“Why is this so difficult?” I mumbled to myself as I stared at my notebook. “Why won’t my brain go to a place where Christmastime and relationships exist?” And then, just as I was about to search for inspiration in a tin of Christmas cookies, BOOM—a light bulb went off (or, since it’s December, I guess it could have been a strand of imported Italian twinkle lights). I don’t know what to write because I’ve spent the last six holiday seasons with just my family.
This isn’t a bad thing at all. My family is awesome, and we have several pretty great traditions for this time of year. We have a classy, candlelit dinner on Christmas Eve, and we celebrate Christmas morning with a marathon session of gift giving followed by a leisurely brunch. New Year’s Eve has more of an outright party atmosphere, what with all of my cousins playing Just Dance before we distribute the noisemakers and party hats just before midnight. But even though I’m grateful to be able to spend the holidays in such a festive and loving environment, I sometimes get a little bummed out about being single during the holiday season.
I awoke the morning of Thanksgiving with a huge zit. I felt like a sixteen year old on the morning of prom. I have since affectionately named it, “The Abscess.” This was my first Thanksgiving spent with my boyfriend’s family. Granted, this was not my first visit nor my first holiday with them, but no well kempt twenty-seven year old wants to wake up to that on any day, let alone a national holiday with people who have no obligation to love you unconditionally.
That’s pretty much the only thing downside to spending a holiday with someone else’s family; you have to be on pretty good behavior and look nice. At my own family gatherings, especially if my parents are present, I have a tendency to brat the fuck out. Other than immense difficulty it takes to act your age, holidays at other people’s homes are the best. All the food, without the drama.
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