According to a recent study reported in The Good Men Project, adult men are more likely than women to settle down with a mate they are not in love with. Amazingly enough, the younger the guys skew the MORE willing they say they are to settle.
This is, naturally, the most counter-intuitive statistic I could hear about the men of my generation, based on my romantic experience as well as my many deep friendships (where we talk about life and hopes and dreams) with the guys in my dah.
Fortunately, my dear pen pal, bachelor extraordinaire, big time author, and WTF?! Guest Blogger, Jamie Reidy (who now co-runs The Good Men Project’s Good Feed Blog) calls these young dudes out and tells them to be settlers of uncharted geographic and romantic terrain in the hopes of “strik[ing] relationship gold.” WHY SETTLE FOR LESS? is his message.
Reidy’s point is bolstered by the depressing fact that of his dozens of married friends, “no one has ever has ever insisted, ‘You gotta get married tomorrow, man! It’s the greatest!’”
Thus, I will enter my personal plea. Boyfriend-Prospect/Husband-Prospect, whoever you may turn out to be, please don’t settle for me. If we’re not deeply in love and not building a lasting, sustaining, fulfilling (AND SEXY) bond…then, let’s just hang out in each other’s dahs. I want Epic Love for you – so do me right, and don’t let US settle for anything less.
via The Good Men Project
photo via Jimmy Benson
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