Susan Sarandon, 67, revealed to AARP magazine that she’s in a relationship with 36-year-old producer Jonathan Bricklin, for an age difference of a possibly eyebrow raising 31 years. This isn’t the first time that Sarandon has dated younger, either. Five years ago she split from longtime partner Tim Robbins, who was 12 years younger. I say, good for her on her new relationship. How often do we see older men with much younger women? We see it all the time, and no one cares. Michael Douglas is 25 years older than wife Catherine Zeta-Jones. Did people freak out? Not really, no.
I have a feeling that people may freak out over Sarandon’s relationship purely because she’s a woman. For some reason, it’s considered more taboo for an older woman to date a younger man than the reverse. Why is that?
And what does it matter, anyway? How much does age difference really factor into a relationship? I think it depends upon the ages of the people in question. If both are past 30 and there’s still a big gap, I don’t think it matters as much, as opposed to a 21-year-old dating say, a 72-year-old. It’s hard for a 20 something and a 70 something to find common ground (though Paul McCartney, if you’re reading this, call me.) Not that a 30 something and a 60 something have loads more in common, but I find it less alarming once the person is past 30.
What do you think about age differences? Do you look down upon people who have a huge age gap, or do you think it isn’t a big deal? Do you think it will come to get them in the end?
And speaking of having younger partners, we’ve heard for years now about men marrying very young and beautiful women — or, trophy wives. But, to quote Smithsonian, have you ever actually met one? I’ve lived in Los Angeles my whole life and I’ve never met a trophy wife. Writer Rachel Nuwer suggests that perhaps it’s really just an urban myth. She spoke with relationship inequality researcher Elizabeth McClintock, who actually analyzed attractiveness, professions, and socioeconomic backgrounds of couples to determine if the trophy wife trope was real.
What she discovered was that attractive women weren’t necessarily seeking out rich men — they were seeking out attractive men. “I find that handsome men partner with pretty women and successful men partner with successful women,” she wrote. “So, on average, high-status men do have better-looking wives, but this is because they themselves are considered better looking — perhaps because they are less likely to be overweight and more likely to afford braces, nice clothes and trips to the dermatologist, etc.”
Were Sarandon to marry her younger paramour, would you consider him a “trophy husband”? Or would it just be like any other marriage?
What’s your age difference gap? How low (or high) will you go?
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Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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