Do you believe in soul mates? Northwestern University offers a “Marriage 101″ class that sidesteps the idea of soul mates, instead viewing marriage as something you have to truly work on — there’s no magic combination of people that ensures a happy, long marriage. The class is capped at 100 but that still isn’t enough — many prospective students are still turned away each year.
Northwestern describes the class as such:
This innovative course consists of lectures, video clips, discussion, and fun exercises aimed at helping undergraduates develop the skills necessary to build loving and lasting partnerships and marriages.
Topics include: Getting to Know Yourself, Intimacy and Love, Sexual Intimacy, Managing Conflict and Fighting Fair, Dating and Selecting the Right Partner, and Common Problems of Marriage.
I’d be very interested to take that course.
But it brings up the question: if marriage is hard work for everyone eventually, does that mean there’s no such thing as soul mates? That two people can’t meet and click just so?
Sometimes two people meet and it seems like fate — that each person was just meant to meet the other one. We see this in friendships too, though no one really refers to a friend as their “soul mate” — the term seems to be reserved for romantic relationships. I believe that it’s almost easier to label friends as soul mates than it is married couples, because in a platonic friendship, you’re not having sex, and sex can have a way of really screwing things up. What does romance and sex really have to do with the soul anyway?
Personally, I believe that there are many “soul mates” out there for everyone — that it’s not just one shot, one person, that’s it. I think anyone you can meet and click with and bond with and love, there’s potential for soul mates. I don’t see life as some big video game where the goal is to meet your one and only soul mate. Yeah, Mario and Princess Peach were meant to be together, but what if Luigi rescued her from Donkey Kong first? What if they hit it off really well?
Do you believe in soul mates?
Photo: Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall by Ed Clark, 1945, via LIFE photo archives for Google.
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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