Here at Dating & Hookup, we caught up with Chelsea Latimer of Chelsea Talks Smack and asked her some questions about her new video and the meaning of life:
Dating & Hookup: What inspired you to make this video about “doing less” ?
CL: As a naturally creative person, often when I’m lacking creativity I’ll try to pack my schedule and force something to come to me that hasn’t yet. I realized, both in writing, art, and in my life the “answers” or inspiration we’re looking for are greatly tied into allowing SPACE in our minds to come to the right conclusion. It’s incredibly hard to find stillness with so much noise, i.e.; web, cell phones, etc. that doing LESS has to be an active choice and is imperative for inner listening and overall peace/clarity.
Dating & Hookup: In day-to-day life, how do you know when you need to do less vs. do more? What cues do you think you (and we!) can recognize that may tell us it’s time to be mindful, to waste time, to do less… as opposed to plunge forward and do more?
CL: Whenever I start to spin my wheels, or when I realize I keep using the phrase, “I don’t know Fill in the blank-how/what/when….etc)” that means that I’m likely cluttered mentally. I have to drop back INTO myself and intuition. To every action there’s a reaction and my action of creating space/doing less, is always met with reaction; new ideas, fresh perspectives and abundance always follows. Allowing contraction in life, clearing the schedule and mind when HELP during the inevitable times when we’re juggling life’s many “things.”
It’s important to sit. To waste time. To give your thoughts breathing room.
To having “wasting time” be a goal.
To feel the weight of it all. To feel sadness and aches, for no reason….when everything is perfect. And then, to be jolted like a slingshot into joy when it flashes across you. Wildly, unexpectedly…the surprise guest, the kind you wear your party dress for…hoping they’ll come again soon.
Bask. Mope. Drag your feet, deliberately.
Nimbly tracing, with the tips of your fingers, all the way to the end of the rope, where the fraying first began- inch, by inch. Don’t skip a moment.
Pace. Play it on repeat. Pay attention to the detours and not just the destination.
Feel sorry for yourself, silently. Ride it out.
Demand tears to come, not “if necessary,” but always necessary. Insist on hammering it out.
Lay on the floor, for an indefinite amount of time. In every room of the house. Sit in the shower….draw smiley faces on door and watch them drip.
Drift off. To sleep. To that room in your brain that you haven’t explored yet. To nostalgia, where you’ve convinced yourself “things were better.”
Watch yourself cry in the mirror. Notice a new way in which your face moves and wonder how many people know that specific way in which it moves and think of it any time they hear your name. Associate yourself with that face….tell yourself a sad story. Imagine conversations, that haven’t happened.
Stare into your coffee cup. Let your eyes tell a story, so you don’t have to keep repeating it….your brain already does enough of that.
Do less for awhile.
Regret the Tipping Point. You know there would be one….eventually… you just rolled the dice.
There’s never enough time, is there?
Drink too much. Have a marathon day. Do less for awhile, so you feel less guilty about DOING IT ALL.
Admit you need tending. Forgive yourself, for knowing all along.
Wake up. Put your hands, over your heart…… and remember, It’s all going to be okay. Every single thing.
(yes, I know, *Starring, not staring)
ADDITIONAL CAMERA SUPPORT: RYAN RODGERS
Chelsea is the founder of 'Chelsea Talks Smack.' Find her online: Twitter- @chelstalkssmack Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/chelseatalkssmack Instagram- https://instagram.com/chelstalkssmack Tumblr-https://chelslovessmack.tumblr.com/ Blog- https://chelseatalkssmack.blogspot.com/
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