Sometimes I wonder, “how much stupid shit on the Internet can I be offended by, and am I overreacting?” So I present to you, this cartoon I found on lolTen and was immediately offended by. Described, “how to understand women better”, the cartoon depicts a woman in a button down shirt in various states of undress:
They included, “It is pretty much easy to find the relationship status of the girl that you are interested in. The neck position of a girl’s shirt will tell us what her relationship status is. Quite simple, isn’t it?”
Let me explain why I am offended. This cartoon boils women down to the basic principle that their body dictates their entire personality, wants, wishes, and life. Because according to this cartoon, it’s “simple”. According to this cartoon, “happily married” women never show cleavage. According to his cartoon, women are defined by their neckline.
I find this cartoon in poor taste. Am I overreacting?
You may be inclined to say yes; something like, “yes, it’s just a silly cartoon”, and you may even find it funny. But to me, it’s just one of thousands of ways that women are continuously being put down and objectified online. We are consistently and constantly being judged based on our bodies. We are consistently and constantly slapped with labels. We are consistently and constantly made to feel inferior or small based on our appearance.
This cartoon implies that good, married women never show cleavage, because showing cleavage is something only desperate single women do. Why should we feel bad about our bodies? It’s as if it’s suggesting we’re 1950′s housewives who button up and save our bodies for our husbands. It implies there’s something wrong with wearing a low cut shirt.
It’s possible a woman did this cartoon — I don’t know. The “source” offered on lolTen only linked to the image on a page hosted by “Goon Feed”, so I have no idea who did this drawing. If it was a woman, I’m dismayed.
Do you find this cartoon as offensive as I do?
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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