Those of you who have met me and Becky know that she is the organized one. In 8th grade, Becky had all her pens, pencils and highlighters color-coded in a stylish little pencil box (probably the sexiest one that Big Top sold). I, on the other hand, was always digging around in my overflowing backpack, hands covered in uncapped chapstick and leaky Snapple bottles, for a writing utensil. And then I’d inevitably turn around in my chair and ask Becky if I could borrow one from her. I like to think this is a representation of our entire friendship and business partnership.
Luckily, I’ve learned to combat my disorganization with lists. They’re usually written on pieces of scrap paper that I lose within the hour, but still, they help. And as you may have noticed, I find them useful even in my love life! Lists of Non-Dates, list of dah guys, lists of guys who AREN’T dah guys…you get the point. All of them enable me to place a bit of structure and perspective on my weird little post-dating love life.
So here’s another list. And even better, I got to post this one on The Huffington Post! It’s the first in a series of blogs that I’ll be writing for the site (yes, I totally realize how awesome that is and couldn’t be more psyched!).
In Why Everything You Believe About Dating Is Wrong, I list the five dating myths that we need to get over, stat. I believe that it’s never too late to look back and call out the past, especially if we want to move forward and get better at this love stuff. And if we consider this site to be the post-Sex and the City version of A Christmas Carol (isn’t it obvious…?), then we should recognize that we’ve already spent quite a bit of time with the Ghost of Romance Present, and even gone for a quick spin with the Ghost of Romance Yet to Come. But for all our talk of new paradigms and interactions, we haven’t really chilled with the Ghost of Romance Past yet.
So, again, here it is! Read these myths, digest them, roll your eyes at them, and then forget them. And in the meantime, please become my fan on The Huffington Post!
Jess is the co-creator of Dating & Hookup, alongside her childhood best friend Becky Lynch, and is the author of the book - yep! - Dating & Hookup. She never tires of hearing your post-dating stories. She wants you to enjoy your love life, and is full of advice on how to do so.
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