Remember when Charlotte in Sex and the City set her sights on Trey, because he seemed like perfect marriage material? If you watched the show you discovered, along with Charlotte, that he was far from perfect after all. But even though she was wrong, did her theory hold? Is there a “marrying type” and can you tell if a guy is one?
The Atlantic reported on a study done by Social Science Research to determine just that. To quote the research, “This study examines how personal traits affect the likelihood of entering into a cohabitating or marital relationship using a competing risk survival model with cohabitation and marriage as competing outcomes. “ They took more than 9,000 young teenagers and followed them into their young adult years, up until ages 24-34 and asked others to rate their personalities, attractiveness, and grooming skills on a scale from one (least) to five (most). I can’t imagine how damaging that could be for a teenager, and I’m hoping they didn’t get the data when they were in their awkward adolescent years.
They found that males who rated high in personality were “the marrying type”; that is, more than likely to get married. And according to The Atlantic, “Someone who scored more highly on the index overall was more likely to walk down the aisle.”
But what does this actually tell us? It seems like kind of a duh that a man with good grooming, looks, and personality is going to wind up married. Most people are going to wind up married. In 2004, the U.S. Census Bureau found that 96% of people in their 70s-80s were married at least once (Wikipedia).
Is it that people get divorced because it turns out their partner wasn’t the marrying type? Could it really be that simple? Is it enough for a man to have a stellar personality?
Isn’t there more involved, like is he responsible? Is he ready for commitment? Is he loyal? Is he open with his feelings? But maybe that all goes into personality?
What do you think are the qualifications for someone who is the marrying type?
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Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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