The internet has been abuzz this week with talk of feminism, sex, grown men and, um…more sex. Looks like the media is starting to catch a little spring fever – and they’re not the only ones! While you’re waiting for the flowers to bloom and the day drinking to begin, catch up on the latest WTF-worthy news…
As we enter February and tread ever-closer to the traditions/worries/excitements/horrors of a certain Hallmark holiday, the internet remains alive with the sounds of WTF-worthy news…
*Do people under 25 really feel like speaking isn’t worth the effort? Is text messaging an undeniable symbol that our civilization has entered “a period of fattening, of loosening and, finally, of decay?” Yeah, we don’t think so either. Boomers witnessing the changing social landscape may believe that texting is indicative of the dwindling amount of “energy we are willing to expend on understanding and being understood by others.” But I doubt that they’ve ever lost sleep over the potential significance of the ‘<3′ emoticon (it’s okay, we’ve all been there!). At least we can all agree that this isn’t your grandma’s dating! (Huffington Post)
*The “new rules of romance” are definitely in need of some navigating – and MTV, we appreciate the effort that your research team is putting in. However, we have to call out your claim that many Millennials are sleeping together before their first dates. WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING ABOUT DATING?! Is anyone actually going on dates – especially that ever-elusive first date? How long Millennials have known each other, or how many times they’ve ‘hung out’ before sleeping together, feels like a more relevant yardstick to us. We think your research team has been asking the wrong questions there. (The New York Times)
*Just when you thought you’d run out of ways to cheat on your significant other, we bring you financial infidelity. Does this mean we’ll actually have to start balancing our checkbooks? (Forbes)
*A techno-romance love story! These two actually met on Twitter. Maybe we should step up those @replies. (Why Are You On My Train?)
*Jenna Fischer told Redbook how she fell in love, and guess what – it was over a series of networking-non-dates! Jenna and her now-husband Lee Kirk fell in love during their weekly script reading dinners. We love a good non-date success story! (The Huffington Post)
*AskMen.com has just released their 2011 list of the 99 most desirable women – and the 10 least desirable. Most intriguing was their article explaining why fame makes women more alluring. On one hand, they note that a woman’s hotness factor increases the more other guys like her. And on another hand, they also find that a famous woman’s screen-worthy ability to be versatile makes her HOT. So…role playing, anyone? (AskMen.com)
*“Thou Shalt Not Drink and Text!” Wise advice. Is techno-romance about to get its own set of “Rules?” (Glamour)
*Throw away those traditional gender roles - men are learning to cook! THANK GOD. Specifically 20-something men, who are learning to cook to impress women. Our favorite man in the kitchen and WTF?! guest blogger, Cook to Bang’s Spencer Walker, reveals that cooking for the ladies is effective – and tends to leave them wanting, um, dessert. Well, don’t mind if we do. (New York Post)
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From the streets of New York City to the mountains of Colorado and the churches (and gay clubs) of Utah, we bring you this week’s WTF-worthy news...
*Having trouble living up to yet another list of self-deprecating New Years resolutions? Not feeling overly inspired to monitor your carb intake or hit the treadmill before 6am, as self-promised? Yeah, us too. So in 2011, lets stop focusing on what we’ve been doing wrong, but start focusing on what we’ve been doing right. 2011, meet the non-goal! How Millennial of us. (Design Love Fest)
*Monogamy is not dead – as long as network TV can help it, anyway. Fox has rejected a Super Bowl ad from Ashley Madison, the infamous extramarital dating site bearing the slogan, “Life is short, have an affair!” Fox and the good people of the Chicago EL, fighting infidelity one baby step at a time. We’ll drink to that. (The Huffington Post)
*Oversharing / undersharing paradox, we meet again! Is our ever-growing obsession with technology and social media affecting the way that we talk to each other in person? Hate to say we told you so! (Ok, no we don’t) (The Guardian)
*How often do you find yourself hitting that backspace key when Gchatting with a dah guy? Maybe you have every good reason to obsess over those ambiguous typos in text messages. Could this be what’s really going on? (YouTube)
*There’s no three-date rule in techno-romance! Sexting is the new foreplay, according to a recent Men’s Fitness poll. They found that “nearly 40 percent of women say that social-networking media, such as text-messaging and Facebook, are causing them to jump into the sack faster with partners than they would have in the past.” Gentlemen, go charge that iPhone stat. (Gawker)
*Still wondering what those privacy screen covers are for? Despite the porn-ban on iOS, the immortal Heff is launching an uncensored, web-based playboy app. Our question: what’s the big deal? We already know that iPads are for porn. (Mashable)
*Childhood development just took a turn for the futuristic, with a recent study showing that “tech skills are outpacing life skills” in children these days. Texting before shoe tying? The generation gap just grew like three miles. (All Things Digital)
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The post-dating world never sleeps! Here’s your weekly dose of ambiguity, confusion and perplexing excitement via the latest WTF?!-worthy news…
*Tired of getting hit up for casual sex on OkCupid? Grossed out after being set up with your boss on eHarmony? Trying desperately to separate yourself from the J-Date profile that your Mom set up for you? Here’s your solution. Online dating will never be the same. (Sea Captain Date)
*”We’re exclusive.” “We’re not sleeping with other people.” “We’re committed to only each other.” You would think that these statements are pretty clear-cut, right? Not anymore! “…in 40 percent of couples, only one partner says the couple agreed to be sexually exclusive. The other partner said there was no agreement…Miscommunication and misunderstandings about sexual exclusivity appear to be common.” We know that labels and traditions here in the post-dating world are dying breeds, but do we really need to come up with another word for “monogamous,” too?! (Science Blog)
*15-minute female orgasms? Yes, please! Tim Ferriss – author of the mega-bestsellingThe 4-Hour Workweek - finally got our attention with this one. (TechCrunch)
*First Tony Parker, now Justin Timberlake. Does texting another woman count as cheating? No, not even sexting. Plain and simple, “just wanted to say hi, and maybe my relationship sucks” texting. We’ll have more on this in next Tuesday’s guest blog! But in the meantime, if these rumors about Justin and Olivia Munn are true, then we’d bet that he’s been sleeping on the couch lately. Looks like someone should invest in some Tiger Text stat. (The Huffington Post)
*We’re going to pretend that putting the Teen Mom girls on the cover of US Weekly has nothing to do with this. Hey, we never said that the post-dating world always moves in the right direction…ugh. (KLTV.com)
*At the other end of the spectrum, we have teens who are “indifferent or averse” towards sex! Young Japanese men, to be exact (and even more young Japanese women – but for some reason, this article seems less surprised by that). Indifference and aversion don’t sound totally healthy either, right? Is there a middle ground between America’s teen pregnancy epidemic and Japan’s apparent lack of hormones? Some ideas have been thrown around, but let’s be honest; neither culture is known for its love of moderation… (The Wall Street Journal)
*In case getting engaged and planning a wedding wasn’t all-consuming enough – now you can obsess over wedding details from a WeddingWire app on your Android! Just kidding, you know that we support marriage, in all its forms. And whatever, if you’re going to be a Bridezilla, then you might as well be one who’s not attached to her laptop. (Yahoo! Finance)
*So much sex this week…are you ready for more doomsday news about being an educated, successful woman? Not only will your skin explode and your house burn down, but according to a new study – surprise, surprise – your odds of finding a committed guy remain less-than-awesome. Here Reason #5389: other women are too easy! “The problem is that there will still be women who will have sex readily without commitment, and since men know this, fewer of them are willing to go steady.” Also, it’s porn’s fault. So start picking out cat names now. You’ll need at least five. (CNN)
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I never thought I’d see the day, but over here at WTF?! we seem to be in a weird mind meld with Playboy, which launched their new, “safe-for-work” website at midnight. The Smoking Jacket (named for Hef’s signature lounge-about-the-mansion ensemble) boasts shorter, more sensational content than the magazine and NO pictures of naked women. The lead story on the site today? How To Get Laid At Work.
Crazy shit! Jess and I also had a long debate about whether and where to post all those NSFW nude photos of our Hot Sex Prospects. (that’s a joke. your pictures are safe with us, guys.) But the real reason I call attention to the mind-meld is that we’ve been talking about the do’s, don’ts and how-tos of office sexual politics here at WTF?! – most recently in the latest Ask Jess column. And we laid (ahem) the groundwork months ago when we started talking about that Career Booster in your dah.
Check out these numbers from a recent study released by the Pew Research Center (and reported by The New York Times):
“…intermarriage among Asian, black, Hispanic and white people now accounts for a record 1 in 6 new marriages in the United States.”
“…black-white unions make up 1 in 60 new marriages today, compared with fewer than 1 in 1,000 back when Barack Obama’s parents wed a half-century ago.”
“…among newly married couples, 14.6 percent were mixed in 2008, compared with 11.2 percent in 2000 and 8.3 percent in 1990.”
“Of all 3.8 million adults who married in 2008, 31 percent of Asians, 26 percent of Hispanic people, 16 percent of blacks and 9 percent of whites married a person whose race or ethnicity was different from their own. Those were all record highs.”
Those are some awesome stats. Long story short, love is crossing racial boundaries more and more often. And within our generation’s constant reexamination of marriage and commitment, it looks like we’re reimagining the role that race should play – or should not play – in our relationships. Nice.
Talk about money well spent! Last week, the Wall Street Journal ran a piece about “Bryant Park’s Sex Engineer” – that would be Daniel A. Biederman, the president of the Bryant Park Corp. – who focuses the park’s initiatives on pleasing women since women are 1. more discriminating than men when it comes to park amenities and safety 2. more desirable to have around in large numbers. In fact, making Bryant Park at any given lunch hour at least 52% female would make the park “Nirvana for some of us.” Well rub my belly and call me Buddha!
The media really loves to hate on love, doesn’t it?
On this last day of winter, the forecast for love in the media is looking pretty bleak. Sandra Bullock’s husband cheated on her! Lady Gaga is being sued by her ex-boyfriend! One of Tiger Woods’s porn stars is releasing his dirty sexts online! Kate Winslet is getting divorced! There’s an Oscar Love Curse!
It’s like my grandparents always say when they watch the nightly local news – why don’t they show any of the good stuff?!
If only I’d read this Jezebel piece (which shouts out our site, for better or worse) before going on that non-date last night, I’d have known exactly what to do.
According to blogger Jenna Sauers, when it comes to romance, the setting and circumstances are arbitrary. The only important piece of information is whether you two like each other. She writes:
“If you don’t [like each other], then I think you know what to do. (Turn the experience into a laceratingly self-deprecating exaggerated tale of woe for your friends and mine it for laughs, duh.) If you did, great! Then do whatever it was that you enjoyed with that person again, maybe a bunch of times; stop and move on when it’s not so good anymore.”
So…is it REALLY this easy? Is Sauers the straightforward, easygoing woman of the future, while Becky and I are the blogging equivalents of Gigi, the over-analytical and overly-traditional girl from the “He’s Just Not That Into You” movie? Are we making mountains out of molehills?
I say no.
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