I consider myself an honest person. Open to all perspectives and frames of mind. Rarely am I shocked, offended, or bothered by the opinions of others. Opinions help you to gain knowledge and perspective and insight into things and people and that’s a good thing.
I received an opinion this weekend from a man that was quite different from what I’m used to hearing. He told me “Darling, I love who you are; I love everything you stand for and I wish you the best, but I think you just might be one size too big for me.”
One size too big? I didn’t tower over this man. And this man wasn’t a male model. In fact, though he was older, and I suppose what one would call “wealthy,” he was no James Bond.
One size too big? I’d never heard that before. I suppose the younger, more fragile version of myself would have wallowed in the implications of such a statement… thinking thoughts like “You’re fat,” and “You’re ugly,”or “You need to better yourself physically.” But honestly, I harbor no such feelings.
Yes, in terms of rejections, and why one gets rejected, this statement was a bit harsh. I won’t lie to you and tell you that it didn’t sting a bit. But really? One size too big? Men don’t come with warning labels reading “Nothing bigger than a size 4 permitted.” How was I to know?
I will continue to love myself. I will continue to be confident. With that said, I encourage men out there to think before they speak. What may be “one size too big” to you may just may be one size too small to another, or perhaps just the right size to most. Living in Los Angeles, in the home of the rich, famous and anorexic, I shouldn’t be surprised, but I was. However, I refuse to think less of myself. To me, I am just the right size. I’m A-OK with myself.
So ladies, when a man says something to you so unnecessary and so offensive that it stops you dead in your tracks, back up and think for a second. Likely it’s not you who has the issue. It’s that man who is at fault. And I suppose it works both ways gentleman, so please heed the same advice. You are lovely and lovable just the way you are. Don’t listen to the nonsense. Listen to your gut.
Sticky's 7th grade boyfriend dumped her for "moving too fast" and things really haven't changed for her since. She currently resides in Los Angeles and writes about the men she's had. You'll find her in the smoking section or wherever champagne is served (but it's easier to follow her on Twitter) @stickyisaslut
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