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In this week’s edition, an awesome guy who happens to be living with his equally awesome girlfriend offers up some advice on techno-romance and once-in-a-lifetime romance. He also calls some guys douches (we concur!). dah Guy, take it away…
1) I’ve been ambiguously texting with this new guy, and sometimes I’m the last one to respond in our text exchanges. Is it okay for me to be the one to start up the next text convo anyway? Do guys even notice “who wrote last?” Do I have to wait for him to start a new convo, or am I just being totally paranoid and overthinking it? For the record, he lives out of town, and I think that’s why we’ve been texting so much.
If a guy likes you, then he doesn’t give a damn who texted last or first. Guys actually care more about how you treat them than about the sequence of a text train. And if they do care about stuff like that, they’re playing games.
So, play games if you’re into that (meaning maybe this is just a Hot Sex Prospect, and you don’t care if your communications are honest in the least). But if you’re looking to have a real relationship, it can’t start with you obsessing over if and when you can actually talk to the guy.
Be yourself. Say what you want to. Don’t worry so much.
2) As a guy, what does it feel like when you’ve met The One? Or how do you expect it to feel, if it hasn’t happened yet?
THE ONE is a myth – mass-market romance novel bullcrap. Guys are just into girls. That’s usually it.
Treat your guy well, and you may end up being THE ONE simply because he stays with you. After all, isn’t that what THE ONE is? Just the person you stick with because it fits? He cleans your cat’s litter box, and you cook him dinner. It works. You make each other happy. You respect each other. You find each other mutually cute and sexy.
THE ONE is a lot more pragmatic of a concept than people usually think. In a way, it becomes romantic by nature of its pragmatism.
3) When you first meet a girl, do you immediately rank her in your mind from 1 to 10? Or do you just think a simple “Yes, she’s hot” or “No, she’s not?”
If a guy is immediately rating every woman he meets on a 1-10 scale, then he’s probably a douche. No, he is definitely a douche. Most guys just think in terms of do I or don’t I like her. Rating systems are for FHM or Maxim (BTW, if you see a guy reading this and he’s not 14, run away).
For the record, are the reasons you’re attracted to men so simplistic? I’m pretty sure they’re not.
Ladies – submit questions for next week’s Ask a dah Guy by emailing us at [email protected]!
And if you’re wondering whether your question has already been answered by a dude (or you just want more insights into the weird-but-lovable mind of men), check out previous Ask a dah Guy columns HERE.
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What time is it? Time for Blogologues, of course!
This Monday, September 26th, come to the Under Saint Marks and see the best twitter feeds and blog posts acted out by the hilarious cast of lively productions! If it was funny and on the web and should not be spoken about in polite company, it’s gonna be on Blogologues. And you get a free beer with ticket purchase. Really, what more could you ask for?
Lights. Camera. WTF?!
Blogologues: Sex, Drugs and Interwebs was such an incredible success that Lively Productions decided they can’t leave you all hanging. That’s right, this Saturday Post-Daters of New York can flood into Under Saint Marks Theater and see Blogologues: I Need a Vocation – featuring a blog post taken from the WTF?! website!
Want tickets? Just go to www.smarttix.com and search for Blogologues.
Come, bring friends, grab a beer and see the best (and most hilarious) postings from the web!
One of our WTF?! Team Members (let’s call her “L”) remembers being 15 and meeting an adorable JTT look-alike. He told her he was also 15. He was cute and fun, and mostly – he liked her! They snuck into a movie, they split a popcorn, and later – with her heart pounding as if she was in a Sweet Valley High book – they shared a slimy-tongued kiss in the empty parking lot behind the movie theatre. And then… SHOCK! HORROR!… she found out he was really 13 YEARS OLD! How dare he?! He was only a child?! She couldn’t make out with a little boy! EW EW EW!
L never spoke to him again.
Whereas those two years seemed like mountains to L – I mean, really, he had just finished his middle school graduation and she was a sophomore! – they didn’t put her right on the borderline of committing a felony.
We wish we could say the same for the commenter behind this weeks Comment of the Week!
And remember: Jesus love you more than you will know.
I’ve had funny situations happen with telemarketers and tech operators before. I have had great conversations with them. I’ve gotten upset with them. I’ve even had a telemarketer randomly call, just to realize that she used to be good friends with my mother when they were in primary school in South Africa – true story! However, maybe I haven’t explored the realm of non-dates broadly enough, but to this day I have never (ever!) left a conversation with an tech support operator or telemarketer feeling like I’ve had phone sex with them.
Kudos to you, Anonymous Commenter! You just took techno-romance to a whole new level. We at WTF?! would love to hear the gory details behind this one:
Meanwhile, we can rest assured that your post has inspired fantasies by tech support operators everywhere!
Merry Christmas, Happy Channukah and a Kool Kwanzaa from your girls at J&R Creative Media
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How many of us have been in the situation in which someone clearly likes us, then suddenly pulls a complete about face? One minute the person is blowing up your phone with calls and emails and text messages, and the next minute their Houdini-like disappearing act has left you internally screaming “WTF?!??!”
It’s easy to feel like we’re the ONLY recipients of mixed signals, and then we read the Comment of the Week and we know we are not:
Anonymous user, we feel your pain! Email us at [email protected] to claim your prize.
And here is to accepting that this confusion is universal!
Nothing like a drunkin’ game of Jenga between friends.
Loren, resident PR manager and West, Digital Strategist decided it would be a good idea to head over to 675 bar this weekend to play a rousing game of Jenga.
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