A slightly dented widow in a party dress, Tré is the Tumblr voice behind White Elephant In The Room and the forthcoming book, Splitting the Difference: A Heart-Shaped Memoir. Tré lives and overshares in New York City and on Twitter @tremillernyc
Tré was a young L.A. publicist when she fell in love with Alberto, a 30-something ad exec in Manhattan. They married on their eighth date and began an adventure that was, uh, interrupted when she found him dead of a heart attack four years later. With a drink in one hand and a blog in the other, Tré proceeded to face her grief the new-fashioned way.
In this exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book, Splitting the Difference: A Heart-Shaped Memoir, Tré stares down her first Valentine’s Day as a widow—then picks up a pair of scissors and reinvents it.
On the May night I met Alberto, I’d confessed to him that 2005 was my first year without a valentine—and I was still bitter about it. A few weeks later, he flew me from L.A. to New York for our second date and a huge bouquet of red roses was staged in his living room. A handwritten card had asked me to be his valentine.
We were married three months later, and on our first February 14th, I discovered that Alberto didn’t actually subscribe to Valentine’s Day.
I don’t need Hallmark telling me when to say ‘I love you,’ he had scoffed.
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