Nina is a comedy person/writer/assistant living in LA but is really just searching for Narnia! She loves fanfiction, her blind old cat that lives in Philadelphia, and Captain EO. Her writing has been featured on HelloGiggles, The Siren & Converge Magazine.
Dating in 2014 is Log-Lady-from-Twin-Peaks level of weird. Unfortunately, it’s becoming clearer that gone are the days of hitting it off with someone at a party, “Can I take you to dinner and a movie?” and walking them to their front door. We now judge whether someone is “into” us off of how they respond and interact with us on social media. This is not a new idea. It’s just (mostly) truth.
I can’t say anything negative about it, really, since one of the main reasons my boyfriend and I are together is because I added him on Snapchat after we hit it off at a mutual friend’s housewarming party. We sent each other snaps of “The Office” season 3, silly faces, and eventually that grew into a real crush. We’ve been together for almost a year. Can I say, without sounding completely cheesy, that I’m absolutely, one hundred percent, in love with him? Because I am, no regrets.
But dating in 2014 can cause severe anxiety attacks. I know from my single days, from my friends who are currently dating, and from coworkers. We have to literally decode everything from, “He/She just favorited my tweet! Oh my God, they just favorited another one?!” to “They sent me that smirk emoji. What does it MEAN?!?!?!?!?” It’s exhausting and tiresome and embarrassing when we realize that while we’re having these kinds of conversations, our parents and grandparents owned houses and had several children by the time they were our age.
Unfortunately, my ending doesn’t really coincide with the Hollywood Hudson-McConaughey ending that we got to watch unfold on the silver screen. Mine actually resulted in what mostly happens in too-soon relationships: I got dumped.
Friends, listen up. I am not afraid to say that I was dumped. And the worst part was? I wasn’t even in my homeland! Talk about culture shock. I blame it all on chick flicks. Stupid Leap Year. Stupid P.S. I Love You.
Stupid every movie, book and television show that taught me that dating a guy with an Irish accent would be cool, romantic, story-book-esque and awesome.
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