The thing about “dating like a Mexican” is that I don’t actually know what it means.
When I go visit my family in Guadalajara, dating rituals are what I understand the least about people (besides women’s need to wear heels all day every day, and men’s hair product habits). From the looks of it, everyone in Guadalajara is always dating everyone else in Guadalajara.
It seems that way to me because people mostly go out in groups. Unless they’ve crossed the threshold into Relationship, people will rarely go out one-on-one with the opposite sex. And in those groups of friends, everyone is always flirting with everyone, or at least that’s what my Puritanical-I-was-raised-in-Chicago eyes see. And on those group outings, the men always pay for the women, no matter what.
So since everyone is always dating everyone, and flirting with everyone, and the women never ever pay when they go out, I have a hard time reading the transition from Dating to Relationship. I have no idea how it happens. Or how people can even tell that someone is into them a little more than someone else.
The one thing that’s very clear, though, is that nothing is Serious — and no one takes any dating scenario seriously — until it is.
I’ve tried dating like a Monica. It’s time to date like a Mexican.
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