Megan S. is an associate editor at Dating & Hookup. She's a big fan of pop culture, comedy and essay collections (but just a regular fan of any sport that isn't softball or golf).
This time of year finds many a Facebook newsfeed filled with picture after picture of engagement rings and romantic proposal stories. It’s enough to make you feel warm and fuzzy all over — or make you fearful that you’ll never experience the same thing as all those people who are lucky in love. So how are you supposed to deal with these conflicting emotions? This post at HuffPost Women helps you look at the fear of never getting engaged from a more self-reflective angle.
Considering it’s December 9th, I think it’s safe to say we’re officially in the holiday season, which means many people will be attending various parties and family get-togethers to stir up a festive spirit. If you’re looking for a date to these events, have you considered what it would be like to date one of Santa’s elves? Probably not — luckily, the funny ladies over at Crushable did think about it and listed the pros and cons of dating Buddy the Elf. Check it out and decide if he could be your +1 this December.
As single people get older, sometimes our choices about who we will or won’t date are questioned. We’re told to keep dealbreakers to a minimum and to be open-minded and realistic, and that’s all fine, but what if you have good reasons for the choices you make? Alana over at xoJane tells us exactly why she doesn’t want to date much older men (unless it’s George Clooney).
When it comes to relationships, are you a giver, a matcher, or a taker? If you’re not sure, it’s definitely worth finding out. This article at HuffPost Weddings lets you in on the business secret that could help you find balance and happiness in your current or future relationships.
OkCupid might be one of the easiest and most convenient ways to meet potential dates, but it’s definitely not the only way. There are a ton of other options — both online and offline — for meeting new friends and potential romantic matches. This slideshow over at The Gloss will guide you to a whole new social scene.
Having a crush can seem pretty intense. Sometimes it feels like a rush of positive energy, while other times it feels embarrassing and unbearable. Why is that? This video from BuzzFeed explains the science behind those feelings.
In almost every writing workshop I’ve ever been in, a decent amount of time is spent dissecting the last paragraph of every essay. The ending shouldn’t be too tidy, or “wrapped in a bow” as one writer I know would say. This means there should be room for growth and questions at the end of an essay. The story might be done on paper, but your life continues on beyond that. An appropriately open final paragraph is a way to acknowledge that fact.
Fairytales have a different agenda. They don’t follow the rules of the essay. Fairytales are lovely stories with colorful characters and a bit of adventure, and they all drive home the same point at the end: the prince and the princess live happily ever after. That’s it. We don’t hear from them again and are left to assume that those two crazy kids are living a life of bliss. We’re meant to accept it and move on.
In real life, the ending of any good love story should be to live happily ever after with whomever it is you hope to spend “ever after” with. Fairytales insist this lifestyle is possible, and I’m sure it is—but I also think it’s more complicated than a single sentence could ever possibly convey.
“Are you are tired of getting the ‘once over’ when you are walking down the street, on the job, or at the grocery store? Have you considered buying one of those t-shirts with ‘my eyes are up here’ plastered over the bust? If so, you are not alone.”
Sarah J. Gervais, Ph. D., and her colleagues recently conducted an experiment to study where a person’s gaze falls when presented with a picture of a woman. In other words, the team “scientifically examined ‘ogling.’” Using both men and women, test subjects were asked to evaluate either a woman’s appearance or personality based on a series of photographs. So what did they discover? Check out the results of the study over at Psychology Today.
Some people turn to music to gain perspective on their current place in life. We want to know that somebody understands what we’re going through, and if they can make those emotions sound melodious and catchy when paired with a good beat then, well, we’ll believe anything they have to say.
However, not all tunes are helpful. Some pop songs offer straight-up awful advice for your love life. This list over at HowAboutWe tells you which songs to avoid when you’re sorting through matters of the heart.
So you’ve finally decided to move in together. You’re likely looking forward to living with the person you already spend so much time with. It’ll be great to finally call the same place ‘home’! You’ll cook together and have long, meaningful conversations over dinner! And that’s great — but there are also unexpected problems that come along with dating your roommate. This post at YourTango will (humorously) prepare you for the things nobody told you about living with your significant other.
Halloween is only a couple of weeks away, and if you’re planning on partying with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’ve probably got a couples costume ready to go. But have you thought about what your costume says about the nature of your relationship? According to this fun article at POPSUGAR, it could say a lot.
I recently posted about dating burnout, which I’m sure is a real thing for those of you who are going on dates, managing social calendars and checking OkCupid profiles. But I haven’t been doing any of those things lately, which I’m pretty sure has led me to a different kind of burnout.
Basically I’m tired of having a positive attitude about my love life. (Fair warning: It’s about to get real melodramatic up in here.)
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