Lauren Otero is an LA-based TV writer who enjoys adult onesies, vegan desserts, and meeting weirdos on the internet. Her celebrity crush is Elijah Wood and her favorite food is strange. You can follow Lauren on Twitter @laurensotero.
I have been on OKCupid for two years now. And in those two years I have seen at least a hundred people I know (if not more) on the site. These are people I know in all capacities: from work, college, through mutual friends, my best friend’s brother, that waiter at Mohawk Bend, that dude at the gelato place whose hands are too big for the scooper, that guy at the gym who Hansel-and-Gretels the machines with his sweat. The list goes on. And, frankly, it has made me realize that all of these people may or may not have also seen my profile. Which brings me to my point. Online dating is not anonymous at all. Why? Because it’s too mainstream.
Now that online dating is no longer considered Loserville, Louisiana, everyone and their father has signed up. Sure, you have some super-awesome handle punctuated with a “taco” or “saurus,” but that only goes so far in guaranteeing semi-anonymity. Your cutesy, ironic OKC name really only prevents people from Googling you and finding out that you write articles about vegan mac n’ cheese or that in college you drunkenly fell out of a parked Honda Civic and broke your femur in six places. (But let’s get real, you probably already advertise many of these factoids in your profile, or at the very least, allude to them in some self-deprecating manner.)
Your profile says a lot about you. A lot of private stuff. It’s like a drunk Google search on steroids. And it’s out there, haphazardly stumbling about, waving its giant arms at every passer-by within a ten-mile radius. And if, like me, you get matched with people twenty years your senior, it could be Mr. Warren, your high school environmental science teacher, seeing you in a new light. A very uncomfortable new light.
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