When Jess and Becky asked me to guest blog about the ever-elusive mysteries of love and dating, I wasn’t sure what to say. On one hand, it’s a complete honor to be asked by such close friends (and roommates past and present) to share in their budding project. On the other hand, I kept tripping over two serious issues: 1) what the hell do I know about anything, and 2) do I really want to dive into more e-theories on matters of the heart, more labels, more love-me-love-me-not petals strewn all over my mind’s all-too-cluttered floor? I’m too old to learn another language. Why add more to my emotional lexicon at this point? (Note to self: if someone hasn’t already coined the term “sexicon,” do so immediately and cash out.)
Besides, what does one convey to we over-choiced, attention span-less brats who can’t say ‘commitment’ without shifting uneasily in our bar stools? And what does it matter anyway? We’ve all been through the same heartbreaks and swoons, the same circular thoughts with which the best songs rock us to sleep. But that collective confusion ultimately cleared up my own as I realized that the rocky road to love is not only age old; it’s also why forums such as WTF?! are both apropos and necessary. We are ALL asking the same questions. We all want to find that great love and keep it. Shakespeare did, Cusack does best, even Destiny’s Child went from “Independent Women” to “Cater 2 U” in just a few years’ time. The question remains, and will: HOW DOES ONE FIND GREAT LOVE REQUITED, WHILE A REALLY BITCHIN’ BALLAD PLAYS IN THE BACKGROUND?
Here’s the thing, my dear Neos. Like the spoon, there is no answer. Which sucks, right?
Or does it?
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