Jess & Becky co-created Dating & Hookup and co-founded J&R Creative Media. They have been best friends since they were 12.
*Britney and her dah are looking a little grimy these days, aren’t they?
Whether we loved her or hated her, we Millennial women grew up with Britney and couldn’t avoid being affected by her very particular brand of sexuality. A role model she is not, but who hasn’t fantasized about rocking that sparkly bikini suit thing?
Well, she’s back at it. Lady Spears’s new video for “Till The World Ends” premiered this morning, and if “I’m A Slave 4 U” and I Am Legend had a music video baby, this would be it.
And in seemingly unrelated news – could what they’re doing in this video give you a heart attack? Some interpretations of a recent scientific study seem to think so…
(Read more – and watch Britney’s new video – HERE)
*Much has been made of the Millennial generation’s sense of entitlement, self-importance and rule-thwarting. But have we been using this freedom for good or evil? Are we creating a youth culture of ambition and achievement – or of selfishness and bratty behavior? It’s time for some answers…
The post-dating world is full of questions. Who should pay? Do men like smart and powerful women? (and do we even care what they like?) What counts as “getting old?” Is pole dancing good for your sexual and spiritual life? These questions – and more! – answered in this week’s WTF-worthy links…
Dear WTF?! Readers: We are delighted to announce that renowned publisher Simon & Schuster will be publishing our book about Dating & Hookup – your dah, our dah, a girl’s dah and…brand new to the book…a guy’s dah.
Our very own Jessica Donalds (read her WTF?! Ask Jess column here and her Huffington Post column here) will write Dating & Hookup book. She’ll be drawing on her interviews with young men and women (you!) from all over the country, which we’ve been compiling through the WTF?! Tour.
Dating & Hookup book is going to explain WTF is up with YOUR love life AND provide insight on how we are finding love and building meaningful relationships in this post-dating world AND let us all know how we can be living our love lives better.
Read the Publishers Weekly announcement HERE.
Read the Entertainment Weekly exclusive HERE.
And – umhavewementioned? – read about the New Line Cinema dah movie in Variety HERE.
But for now, we’ve got more towns and cities to visit, more interviews to do, more non-dates to analyze, more WTF?! Moments to laugh about, and more stories to share. And Jess will still be answering your questions (if you ask nicely).
So. Let’s make this awesome.
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The internet has been abuzz this week with talk of feminism, sex, grown men and, um…more sex. Looks like the media is starting to catch a little spring fever – and they’re not the only ones! While you’re waiting for the flowers to bloom and the day drinking to begin, catch up on the latest WTF-worthy news…
We hope you had an amazing time at Get Your dah On last night, and that everyone there met the Super Horny Guy Who Happens To Be Around A Lot of their dreams. Those who couldn’t be there, hope you caught it on Justin.tv!
Check out what NY Press had to say about Get Your dah On.
WE’RE HAVING A PARTY! And you’re invited. Details above. Guess you’d better brush up on the latest WTF-worthy news so that you have something to talk to your new dah member about once you get there…
*Oh, techno-romance. We’re still not over this video! Story of your life? (YouTube)
*Grindr is going straight! The incredibly popular and influential proximity-based gay dating app is trying out a new hetero-women-friendly platform. The puzzle? How to make it actually appealing to women. Because, let’s face it – as Grindr’s founder says, we ladies get hit on enough as it is. We’re looking for more of a…well-rounded techno-romance experience. Will Grindr crack our code and blow up in the straight community as well? $15 says that Becky will be the first chick to try it out! (and then blog about it, of course) (Guardian)
*Have an ex that won’t let go? One who insists on texting you at all times (including/mostly when drunk)? You’re not alone! Twitter brings you a new stream of unbelievable texts from exes. Corny, scandalous, pathetic…love hurts when it’s over. (Twitter)
*Gentlemen: just say NO to Russell Stovers for Valentine’s Day! Unless you’re buying for Jess, in which case, yesplsthx. But if you want to get your lady something special for V-Day – something that you can’t buy at Duane Reade – then here is the personal shopper you always needed, complete with built-in reminders for special occasions you might be forgetting. Because really, what good is your BlackBerry calendar if it doesn’t automatically remind you to buy flowers on your 3.5-month anniversary? (Thoughtful.co)
*Finally, the truth! Authenticity, not masculinity, is the key to a woman’s success in the office. So now it’s official. We’re going to take a deep breath, say one last goodbye, and donate all our shoulder padded power suits to the Salvation Army. (The New York Times)
*If your lease is almost up, you might want to reconsider renewing. The Daily News has just released the best places for “singles” (ugh) to live in NYC – and two of the top ten are in our neighborhood! We will neither confirm nor deny the quality of “single life” in these parts. But cute single boys, if this convinces you to relocate here, then so be it. (NY Daily News)
*We love having a dah in NYC. And so should you! Doesn’t this sound pretty awesome? “Our status as single, independent, financially solvent New York City women in the year 2011 has us sitting on a mountain of unprecedented options.” Seems like someone at The Village Voice has a dah and isn’t afraid to embrace it! This writer’s advice for finding love without settling or waging emotional warfare on the men of your city? “The wild and crazy kisser who actually broke your front tooth, which then required dental work; the guy who taught you to always ask for Sriracha in your deviled eggs; the man who introduced you to Wolf Parade; the man who introduced you to really good bourbon; the guy with kids who helped you remember why you do, or don’t, want them for yourself; the bisexual co-worker; the “poonhound”; the one that got away; and the one you let get away on purpose—they all have a place in your dating life. Don’t regret them.” (Village Voice)
*WORKING MOMS ARE GOING TO DESTROY THE WORLD! Haven’t you heard? The latest is a ‘scientific study’ proving that mothers’ work schedules are to blame for childhood obesity. Which leads to the question – WTF is up with this headline?! (Fox News)
*Thankfully, we have this great piece about working moms from Tina Fey to even things out. Is anyone else suddenly yearning for a Sarah-Palin-at-home-with-her-kids impression? (Flavorwire)
*Another role model? Check out this interview with Atlantic Records’ Julie Greenwald – who was also named Billboard’s #1 Woman in Music for 2010 – and let us know if she makes the cut. Also make sure to absorb some of her insightful management tips, while you’re at it. (The New York Times)
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As we enter February and tread ever-closer to the traditions/worries/excitements/horrors of a certain Hallmark holiday, the internet remains alive with the sounds of WTF-worthy news…
*Do people under 25 really feel like speaking isn’t worth the effort? Is text messaging an undeniable symbol that our civilization has entered “a period of fattening, of loosening and, finally, of decay?” Yeah, we don’t think so either. Boomers witnessing the changing social landscape may believe that texting is indicative of the dwindling amount of “energy we are willing to expend on understanding and being understood by others.” But I doubt that they’ve ever lost sleep over the potential significance of the ‘<3′ emoticon (it’s okay, we’ve all been there!). At least we can all agree that this isn’t your grandma’s dating! (Huffington Post)
*The “new rules of romance” are definitely in need of some navigating – and MTV, we appreciate the effort that your research team is putting in. However, we have to call out your claim that many Millennials are sleeping together before their first dates. WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING ABOUT DATING?! Is anyone actually going on dates – especially that ever-elusive first date? How long Millennials have known each other, or how many times they’ve ‘hung out’ before sleeping together, feels like a more relevant yardstick to us. We think your research team has been asking the wrong questions there. (The New York Times)
*Just when you thought you’d run out of ways to cheat on your significant other, we bring you financial infidelity. Does this mean we’ll actually have to start balancing our checkbooks? (Forbes)
*A techno-romance love story! These two actually met on Twitter. Maybe we should step up those @replies. (Why Are You On My Train?)
*Jenna Fischer told Redbook how she fell in love, and guess what – it was over a series of networking-non-dates! Jenna and her now-husband Lee Kirk fell in love during their weekly script reading dinners. We love a good non-date success story! (The Huffington Post)
*AskMen.com has just released their 2011 list of the 99 most desirable women – and the 10 least desirable. Most intriguing was their article explaining why fame makes women more alluring. On one hand, they note that a woman’s hotness factor increases the more other guys like her. And on another hand, they also find that a famous woman’s screen-worthy ability to be versatile makes her HOT. So…role playing, anyone? (AskMen.com)
*“Thou Shalt Not Drink and Text!” Wise advice. Is techno-romance about to get its own set of “Rules?” (Glamour)
*Throw away those traditional gender roles - men are learning to cook! THANK GOD. Specifically 20-something men, who are learning to cook to impress women. Our favorite man in the kitchen and WTF?! guest blogger, Cook to Bang’s Spencer Walker, reveals that cooking for the ladies is effective – and tends to leave them wanting, um, dessert. Well, don’t mind if we do. (New York Post)
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Today is an exciting day, folks. “Wactress”-turned-writer-turned-federal prosecutor-turned-author-turned WTF?! guest blogger Cavanaugh Lee’s book is finally out! There’s a new voice of techno-romance in the bookstores!
Here are the basics of what you need to know: it’s called Save as Draft, it’s a fun, timely, thought-provoking, engaging, finish-it-in-two-sittings-and-a-subway-ride read, and you can buy it now HERE. And while you wait for the book to arrive, you can check out Cavanaugh’s WTF?! guest blog – Wish You Were Her(e) – um, HER(E)!
As for us, we were intrigued as soon as we pulled our advance copy out of the mailing package and saw that the cover was designed to look like a sexy MacBook Pro. If you haven’t noticed, we love our Apple products. Maybe a little too much, in Becky’s case. Way to hook us in, Simon & Schuster.
So we started reading. And by page 7, the themes of techno-romance that we so often ponder and debate and bemoan and celebrate here at WTF?! were smacking us in the face. Because not only does Save as Draft acknowledge the ubiquitous influence of technology on our modern-day relationships, but it is actually written in the form of these technological communications. The “who (if anyone?) will she end up with??” story is told entirely through emails, text messages, Facebook wall posts and tweets. You follow the progression of the primary love triangle, and get to know the main characters, through these online and mobile communications only. And – here’s the particularly cool hook – you also get a glimpse into their real, unfiltered thoughts and feelings via the unsent drafts that are saved in their inboxes.
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