Jess & Becky co-created Dating & Hookup and co-founded J&R Creative Media. They have been best friends since they were 12.
As promised, we hit up The Badoo Project and as advertised, it was pretty fab. First we got our hair and makeup done. Next, we overdid it with accessories (duh). Then, we were photographed by the world’s greatest Ego Booster (because he made us look so gorgeous!) – A-list fashion photographer Kenneth Capello. Then, we hung out in the lounge and played a really, nail-bitingly-close game of foosball. We also met a lot of handsome men, most of whom were intriguingly named Matt or Travis.
We were there on a Friday morning, so the vibe was chill, but we heard that the night before, there were 400 people in the space and it was a raging group-non-date. Check out (and vote!) for your favorite models HERE.
This post lovingly sponsored by Badoo.
We’re excited to be collaborating with Badoo.com - the world’s largest social network for meeting new people, but *gasp* not on a date! PHEW.
The big news for us New Yorkers (sorry, Alison!) is that the Badoo is running a massive photoshoot for 1,000 hot models – aka YOU. The Badoo Project, as it’s called, kicks off on Thursday March 22, and if you register HERE, then you can come get your photo taken by one of these 4 high profile fashion photographers:
The portrait taken (OF YOU) will be gifted TO YOU to glam up your Badoo profile, Facebook page, online dating profile etc.
AND – 24 of the portraits will appear on billboards, painted building sides, and a whole range of other media on the streets of NYC for the month of April.
Jess and I are going! We want to be on a billboard!
FIRST STEP : SIGN UP HERE. (Registration is Mandatory!)
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Public Service Announcement! Girls are NOT crazy. But girls can BE crazy.
As a corollary, and as Jess has already discussed: Guys are NOT assholes. But guys can BE assholes.
Thus it follows that when guys are being assholes and girls are being crazy, then our already confusing and ambiguity-laden post-dating world can get pretty insane.
Fortunately, there’s a (satirical) cure for all that.
Shoutout to Leora for the tip on this hilariously-offensive-damn-we-wish-it-didn’t-ring-so-true video.
photo via chickpokipsie
Becky here, reporting on the mega-non-event that was the Oscars Telecast last night. The whole affair was eminently grandiose, expectation-laden and traditional – and therefore, boring. Jess and I (watching from Nashville and Brooklyn respectively) had multiple text exchanges consisting entirely of “Ewwwewww” “uggghhhh” and “huhhhh?” Still, there were a few standout moments that are WTF?! worthy – either because they brought a drop of millennial magic to the otherwise stolid proceedings of the night…or, because they made us say (er, text) with no irony and with no reference to our love lives, What. The. Fuck.
Dante Ferretti (Production Design) and Francesca Lo Sciavo (Set Decoration) won Best Art Direction for their work on HUGO. This husband and wife team has won TWICE BEFORE (for Sweeney Todd and The Aviator) and has been nominated multiple other times. We have so many questions! How do they work together and how does that affect their relationship and vice versa? How long have they been married? Do they have kids? They looked delightful, thrilled and happy together last night and they gave an adorable and gracious acceptance speech (in one of the few moments of truly infectious joy and excitement Francesca dedicated the award to their native country – “EATALY!!!”) This couple’s professional accomplishments (together!) are breathtaking. We’re gonna google stalk them all day.
Presenters Tina Fey (looking fabulous! love her!) and Bradley Cooper (huhhhh that mustache?!) made an extended joke about loveless marriage while introducing the nominees for Film Editing. Paraphrased: “You end up locking yourselves away in a dark room looking at pictures of other people…” HAHAHAHAHAH! Or, not. Maybe for Baby Boomers, Gen X and Gen Y all that rings a bell, but as millennial women of a new generation, we’re pretty tired of marriage being depicted as lonely, isolated, sexless drudgery. Enter our young and married WTF?! Columnist: Rasika! Plus, even for old folks, marriage just doesn’t have to be that way (see: Dante and Francesca, above.) Let’s re-write this out-dated, unhelpful, and lame cultural refrain.
Your grandparents probably remember Christopher Plummer being nominated for an Emmy for his performance as Hamlet in a BBC miniseries in 1964. I know my mother continued to lust after him as Captain Von Trapp when my siblings and I grew up watching The Sound of Music in the 80′s and 90′s (for the record, that musical won Best Picture in 1965; I’m sure your grandparents remember watching.) Be these fond memories as they may, Christopher Plummer has FINALLY won an Oscar after over five decades of remarkable acting work in pretty much all the theatrical arts. At 82, he is the oldest recipient of a competitive acting Oscar ever.
But BOY is he still dashing and debonair. Suave, handsome and witty (“You’re only two years older than me darling, where have you been all my life?”), he could write his ticket to any spot in my dah. We can’t help but feel he has a little something extra over the heartthrobs of our time. George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Justin Bieber – take note.
WTF? (SERIOUSLY WTF?)
Your grandparents probably remember Hattie McDaniel winning the Best Supporting Actress Oscar in 1939 for her role in Gone with the Wind as Mammy to a young, spoiled white woman who learns better. We did not like THE HELP and cannot endorse the premise – for reasons we can fill another blog post with. For now, we are just calling out that seventy-three years after McDaniel’s accomplishment, the most high profile roles for black women in mainstream Hollywood are eerily close to what the still-segregated 1930s had to offer.
That said! We are thrilled for Octavia Spencer, who looked stunning and whose Best Supporting Actress acceptance speech was another rare moment of true passion, graciousness and beauty during the night. We think Viola Davis got robbed (so does Meryl Streep, for the record: “When they called my name I had this feeling I could hear half of America going, ‘Oh no. Oh, come on. Why her?Again?”), but in any case, Brava to both Octavia and Viola for their performances. And Cheers to Meryl as well, whose ongoing work remains incredible, entertaining and inspiring.
As the wise and ruthless Feminist Frequency points out: according to the Bechdel test, this has NOT been a great year for women in movies, so we are proud to celebrate the remarkable work that has been honored – and we look forward to MORE next year.
In our favorite moment of the night, Oscar veteran and Belfast native Terry George (he was previously nominated for his screenplays for Hotel Rwanda and In the Name of the Father), accepted the Oscar for Best Short Film / Live Action alongside his 31-year-old daughter, Oorlagh George, who produced their film – THE SHORE. After dedicating the award to the people of Northern Ireland, Terry gleefully called out his daughter saying, “I’d like to thank the Academy because now I don’t have to wait for her wedding to tell the world how brilliant she is!”
Damn straight you don’t!
With that, we will file away the 2012 Oscars in the 1930s or 1990s box (hello, Billy Crystal!) where they unfortunately belong. Even the J-Lo nipple slip, oops, “wardrobe malfunction,” has been done better, and with more pizzazz, in a previous decade.
We were so THRILLED and RELIEVED to read Stephanie Coontz’s Op-Ed in The Times. Finally, in a national discourse about love and marriage that has largely centered around complaining about the quality of available men and ordering us young women to settle already and MARRY HIM – FINALLY, there is a voice telling us that we are better off in relationships the more powerful we are.
Our pal, Spencer Walker of COOK TO BANG, is hosting cooking classes to lust for just in time for Valentine’s Day. Aphrodisiacs? Fun, cool people cooking? Sounds like a tasty non-date to us. We will be there.
Sign up for ‘MY TASTY VALENTINE’ HERE!
Check out Spencer’s WTF?! Guest Blogs
Blogologues – the long running new media theater series produced by Lively Productions – is taking on DATING (whatever that is!) for their very last show at UNDER St. Marx.
As they say: This month Blogologues is here to help you find your soul mate. Join us, and you will learn the do’s and don’ts of dating, witness the end of a few meaningful relationships, experience the blossoming of new ones (perhaps with strippers), and, of course…Zombies.
Here’s the info! See you there!
BLOGOLGUES: COME HERE OFTEN?
Conceived by Allison Goldberg and Jen Jamula
Produced by Lively Productions in association with Horse Trade Theater Group
Under St. Marks (94 St. Marks Place)
Monday, January 30th
7:30 and 9:30 PM
Smarttix.com or call
Tickets are $15 and include a beer!
Featuring a raffle brought to you by PplLikeMe!
Cast: Andrea Biggs*, Matthew Cox, Danny Gardner*, Allison Goldberg*, Jen Jamula*
Blog posts from Colin Nissan and Charlotte Hamilton (McSweeney’s), Laurenne Sala (Humans Are Funny), Lily O (WTF Is Up With My Love Life), Jessica Schnall (Alone With Cats), JD (JD’s Man Stories), Chiara Atik (HowAboutWe) … Content from Twitter, Craigslist, Texts From Last Night, Damn You Autocorrect, When Parents Text, F My Life, Overheard In New York and Overheard in the Office!
She was a kickass Congresswoman. She faced a life-threatening and debilitating injury with strength, resilience and fortitude. Her marriage is an inspiration. We wish Gabrielle Giffords well as she continues to recover.
Jess & Becky here! We’re excited to let you know that WTF?! will be re-launching THIS WEEK. Stay tuned for stories, thoughts, wisdom, advice, commiseration and celebration of YOUR f*cked up love life! It may be a new year, but the post-dating world seems to be as it ever was…
♥ WHAT IS YOUR LOVE LIFE SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE?!
Dates. Phone calls. One-on-one dinners over candlelight at fancy Italian restaurants. People you’re dating, and people you’re not. Rules. Expectations. Labels. Pressures. Timelines.
Basically, everything your dear Mother taught you to expect.
♥ WHAT DOES YOUR LOVE LIFE ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE?!
We’re Millennials, living in 2012 (!) We’re doing things a little differently – and it’s time to open our eyes and embrace it. Read on!
THE POST-DATING WORLD
♥ We now live in a post-dating world. It’s not just you – no one’s schedule is packed with “dates” anymore. Because ”dating,” in the traditional sense, is now the exception instead of the rule.
What’s the new reality? Everything and nothing is a date these days.
And that’s a good thing. Ambiguity is our friend. This new crazy state of affairs is actually better suited to the tastes and tendencies of our generation – but only if we are able to wade through all the confusion, throw away the old, unhelpful standards, and learn to get excited about it.
Do that, and we promise – you can own your love life. You can feel good about it. You can feelempowered by it. FINALLY.
So what has replaced dating in the post-dating world?
Stay tuned for more…
Email us at [email protected] if you have stories to share on the Guest Blog! Keep ‘em coming!
Jess & Becky on Online Dating (on the WTF?! Blog):
WTF?! Online Dating Series Guest Blogs:
POF: Plenty of…Friendship??? by Andy Veilleux (Plenty of Fish)
Searching For That Jones by BlackWomanSeeking (Black People Meet)
So this one time on eHarmony… by Sheridan (eHarmony)
WTF Is Up With Internet Dating – And Why Doesn’t It Work?! by spstar (Match, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, eHarmony, J-Date)
Trust us, we know – the constantly shifting realities of the post-dating world can get confusing. Frustrating, even! But last weekend, New Yorkers took a break from stressing over their latest ambiguous text message to celebrate a change in the modern romantic landscape that is seriously, unquestionably, mind-bendingly awesome.
“We’ve been dating 31 years, and we’re eloping today.”
Same-sex marriage is finally legal in New York state. The City Clerk’s office is officially open. And it’s time to do this thing!
Remember the good ol’ days? When politicians jeopardized their careers and angered their constituents and humiliated their spouses by engaging in face-to-face, clear-cut, by-the-book extramarital affairs?
Once upon a time – when a politician wanted to cheat on his wife and funnel his powerful ego into illicit sexual activities – he could have cigar sex with his intern. Or keep his socks on while banging a call girl. Or father a child with a campaign videographer and then lie about it. Or father a child with his housekeeper and then lie about it! Really, the adulterous possibilities were endless.
But you’re not the only one living in a post-dating world! Politicians are living in it, too. And now, only a beat behind the mainstream, the socio-political-sexual arena has been introduced to techno-romance…all thanks to the sensational explosion of Weinergate.
That is, it has been introduced to techno-romance in its grossest, tawdriest, seediest, least romantic form.
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