Jess & Becky co-created Dating & Hookup and co-founded J&R Creative Media. They have been best friends since they were 12.
Now for your rainy day dose of WTF?!-worthy news…
*Taylor Swift has a new celebrity boyfriend to write condemning songs about! First there was Joe, then there was John, and now there’s Jake. Should Jared Leto be getting nervous? Hey, lady – we support whatever you need to do to get over these guys! And if it helps you make millions of dollars in the process? Sounds like empowerment to us. (Us Weekly)
*Americans are apparently falling behind on the techno-romance front – at least when it comes to asking people out on dates via text message. Although really, is 44% really that shabby? And since dating is dead and all that, shouldn’t we be asking if Americans use texts to flirt and non-date and explore ambiguous connections? Because when it comes to that…can a percentage be higher than 100? (The New York Observer)
*You’re kidding, right? We’re still talking about this?! In an article straight out of 2003, The New York Times claims that men are scared of successful, empowered women. Of course, as Salon’s rebuttal notes, they don’t actually interview any guys in order to get their perspectives. And their pop cultural references (Sex and the City and Bridget Jones’s Diary) are years and years and years old. And not one of these people sounds anything like the evolved, nuanced, thoughtful young people that Jess has been interviewing on the WTF?! tour. How many times do we have to say it? We’re already rewriting the rules of gender and romance! We’re figuring out how to make our partners – and ourselves – feel confident and necessary without lessening our innate talents! Okay? Are we done now? (The New York Times; Salon)
*Oh man, The Jetsons would’ve loved this. Soon your phone will be able to tell you if you have an STD! You’ll just have to pee and/or suck on a computer chip first. The romance just never stops with our generation. (Guardian)
*Have no fear – the feds (Federal Trade Commission, to be exact) have got your back when it comes to online dating woes. ”Online Dating Scams” gets its own special Do’s and Don’ts section on this government protection site. Judging by these criteria, we should be able to report at least a few of Becky’s OkCupid weirdos…Mom, what do you think? (OnGuardOnline.gov)
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Your weekly dose of WTF?!-worthy news…
*Prince William and Kate Middleton are engaged! Their first interview as royals-to-be reveals the details of their courtship. Met at college? Were platonic pals for over a year before dating? Lived together with a group of friends before officially hooking up? Broke up for a bit, in order to figure out who they were and what they wanted? William tried to cook elaborate meals for Kate (and failed)? Fell in love because they were able to have many “a good giggle” together? Announced the engagement via Facebook? Sounds like a post-dating romance to us! Now, if one more person calls her Waity Katie… (Sky News)
*Looks like men who do housework – and have wives who work similar hours to them – are happier. Gender roles in marriage are shifting (duh!). Woohoo, equality. So, who’s going to take out the trash today? (Salon)
*Ryan Reynolds was just named People’s “Sexiest Man Alive” – and his wife Scarlett Johansson recently earned the title of GQ‘s “Babe of the Year.” What were we saying about needing role models…? (People; GQ)
*Guys, in case you weren’t already feeling insecure about your manliness – you’re evolutionarily falling behind your ancestors! Start doing some pull-ups and improving your rap game stat. (Manthropology)
*Those revolutionary Millennials, and their willingness to forego doormen and in-building gyms to follow their artistic dreams in New York City. What crazy idea will they think of next?? (The New York Times)
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It’s a big joke (hahaha) that “None of us is as stupid as all of us.” The supporting concepts and labels abound. GroupThink. Peer Pressure. Mob Rule. Lemmings. Sheep. Teeny Boppers. Fascists. If all your friends were jumping off a cliff, would you do it too? Deservedly or not, people in large groups get a bad rap.
As in all things Millennial, our generation is re-defining this gem of conventional wisdom.
What if our powers combined yield better, faster, smarter, more valuable results?
Well, here you are on WTF?! – the world’s first crowd-sourced relationship blog (so Mashable tells us!) Come on, now, our Millennial logic goes. Who wants to read about the 10 things you should change about yourself to get a man? Or the 1,000 ways you can tell he’s just not that into you? WTF? So much better to Ask Jess, or post a non-date, or sound off with a WTF?! moment – and get a variety of thoughts and feedback from folks in the same boat as you. Here in this virtual space, we can choose to be totally anonymous if we want (except Becky!), unlike that Self-Help Section at your local Barnes & Noble. And the results of this crowd-sourced-creativity? Pretty damn exciting, insightful, inciting, profound, smart, hard-hitting, savvy and thoughtful, if we do say so ourselves.
So if this new GroupWisdom works for f*cked up modern romance – why not film?
Call us Millennials. Call us trophy kids. Call us innovative. Call us antiauthoritarian. Call us entitled. Call us optimistic. Call us “emerging adults” (yeah, we heard that, NYTimes!). Or, you know, call us The Next Great Generation. Whatever, we never said modesty was among our virtues.
TNGG is a fun-loving, thoughtful forum started by a Mullen advertising exec – who ceded control of the site and its content to its editors and contributers, all of whom are young people between the ages of 18-27 (oh gosh, we feel old!).
Today on TNGG, writer Caitlin Tremblay dissects the death of dating and ruminates on Dating & Hookup. And boy, does she get it! Check it out HERE:
GOODBYE, DATING. HELLO, WTF?! BY CAITLIN TREMBLAY
And don’t worry, dear readers. We’ve already locked Ms. Tremblay down for a Guest Blog about some of her evidently cra-azy outtakes from the post-dating world. Coming soon!
Ever wondered what the NSFW version of us sounds like? Well, tonight’s your chance to hear us let loose!
Don’t miss our radio interview with Sam, Dave and super sexy single guy Troy on The Virus’s SPECIAL DELIVERY WITH “PRIME TIME” SAM ROBERTS AND “EAST SIDE” DAVE MCDONALD.
Yes, they should sound familiar. You’ve heard these guys on The Opie & Anthony Show and The Ron & Fez Show. But more importantly – whose cartoons do you like better? Ours or theirs? We’re dying to know!
Our interview will air TONIGHT – Saturday, September 4th – from 9pm to 12am EST. You can tune in by listening to The Virus, Channel 202 on XM and 197 on Sirius. You’ll also be able to catch us via the Sirius/XM app on your Android, iPhone or Blackberry, or streaming live at www.xmradio.com.
If you haven’t noticed, we’re not a big fan of rules – so it seems perfect that we should make our very first satellite radio appearance on a show with No. Fucking. Rules. It’ll be real, it’ll be raunchy, it’ll be raucous. Our mothers might not look us in the eye for a few days afterwards. Our fathers may shed a tear or two. But it should be a blast.
How far would you go? For Federer? For really good sushi? For love?
Happening this weekend at a movie theater near you – Drew Barrymore and Justin Long (a real life it-seems-to-be-complicated couple) take on the anxieties of miles-apart love in GOING THE DISTANCE. With Jason Sudeikis, Charlie Day, and Christina Applegate along for sh*ts and giggles. Relationships are hard and complicated – why not get down and dirty and have some laughs at your own expense?
It’s Friday morning. FACT. You’ve got your coffee, donut and a hankering to take off early to spend your last summer Friday on a group-non-date with your crew on the outdoor, beer-encrusted patio at the local dive bar. CHECK.
But what to do ’til then?
Can we humbly suggest you while away the work hours checking out (no pun intended…) this hilarious new web series on NBC.com.
FCU: FACT CHECKERS UNIT started out as a comedic short at the Sundance Film Festival (see the original, starring Bill Murray, above!) The film was so well-received that NBC commissioned a whole series. The premise? Two professional fact-checkers-cum-sleuths at a magazine must investigate random facts about your favorite celebrities to see if the “facts” “check out.” And thank goodness! Without such foolhardy souls, you could never believe ANYTHING you read!
The Wall Street Journal has, yet again, dipped its surprisingly-aware toes into the perplexing pool of post-dating romance. BRA-VO, we here at WTF?! say! A little late is infinitely better than never – especially compared to the newspaper’s rivals, who are clinging to the traditional concept of “The Date” as if it’s actually going to help them sell some papers (guys, a hint: nothing is going to help you sell papers these days. have you met the internet?).
This isn’t the first time that the Wall Street Journal has recognized and admitted to the ambiguity surrounding modern romance. Remember when Jess was interviewed for their February 26th article on the new path that our generation is taking to reach the coveted land of marriage and commitment? Yet today’s step forward feels even bigger. Why? Because they are finally attempting what we here at WTF?! have been doing all along. They are discussing specific, measurable ways (there’s a chart in there!) to find love in the post-dating world. They are pulling the curtain back on one small slice of the ambiguity. Read the Wall Street Journal’s discovery of the Group-Non-Date HERE:
The Dating Game Takes to the Field
As active participants in several urban sports leagues, we are no strangers to the romantic possibilities of joining a soccer, bowling, kickball, football or wiffle ball league (ask us about that one this fall). Group-Non-Dates were one of the first new paths to love that both of us recognized when we set out to navigate and define the post-dating world. So in homage to today’s Wall Street Journal article, and as a reminder to those of you wondering how membership in these sports leagues often plays out, we’d like to flashback to our description of the Group-Non-Date – sports included. Enjoy!
Today in happenings ON YOUR TV, this extraordinary, Oscar-short-listed documentary is premiering on HBO 2 at 8pm.
A riveting account of war and politics in Nepal, WOMAN REBEL follows the story of a young woman – code name Silu. Over the course of 15 years, Nepal descended into bloody revolution and then emerged with a (now stalemated) democratic government. Driven to fight for the rights of women and the poor, Silu left her family of subsistence farmers and rose through the ranks of the guerilla Maoist army. Then she became a democratically elected official and continues her work for social justice today. Rock.
We started WTF?! because we were f*cking confused about our f*cked up love lives. And it turned out, so were you! Dudes AND ladies. Apparently the post-dating world does NOT discriminate on the basis of gender. Our empowered generation would never allow such terrible bias.
Even though there’s 17,000 books by “experts” telling you what 10 steps you need to take or all the things you need to change about yourself to make a guy (or gal) like you, the fact is that NO ONE is an expert on romance and love in a world where traditional expectations need not apply. All bets are OFF.
But the GOOD NEWS is we’re all figuring this out. And the EVEN BETTER news is that we can have FUN in the process. Case in point: a WTF?! fave blog and addicting read: CAN I GET A MAN WITH THAT, where anyone and everyone can share their tragi-comic dating and non-dating stories. Let’s stop being pessimistic and terrorized about love and start living and loving our love lives. TODAY.
We hate to be screaming at you in all CAPS, but sometimes excitement runs away with us. And we’re still cracking up about the wacky, weird, wild stories that CIGAMWT asked Jess to weigh in on for today’s Ask a Blogger: Dating & Hookup Edition.
Check it out HERE.
Tomorrow in NYC Happenings, The Bowery Poetry Club is hosting Basseyworld Live! at 7pm. Brought to you by 5 x Def Poetry Jam Poet Bassey Ikpi, the night will feature an illustrious panel discussion about pop culture, politics and relationships (intertwined with Bassey’s poetry of course!).
PROP 8 – THE MUSICAL
We were about to continue our conversation about that ugly guy you should be dating, but we wanted to take a moment to send a WTF?! Shout Out to US District Judge Vaughn Walker, who ruled Prop 8 in California unconstitutional today, as well as to all the activists who have been working hard to overturn this prohibition of gay marriage in America’s most populous state.
You can read the historic ruling HERE. An appeal that goes all the way to the Supreme Court seems likely, and a stay is possibly going into immediate effect, but nonetheless, couples are already headed to the altar.
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