It is about that time when Simon Cowell (we miss you!) reflects on the highs and lows of the previous night’s Idol performances to separate the winners from the losers.
Well, in this WTF?! competition, who won? Well, if you look back to my June blog post which started this whole project and then my midsummer Midterm Review, you will notice that getting a legit boyfriend OR a short lived record contract, were NOT part of my grandiose prize. In fact, the prize was learning to enjoy the process itself. And you know what, the process was fun! In fact, the juiciest and sexiest high note occurred right before the final curtain call in Latin America. HOLA!
It has been about two months since I started the experiment of my WTF?! Summer Challenge, and now comes the time when I have to check in with myself and see how this whole crazy, adventure is going. I guess you could call it a personal midterm review?
I was never one for midterms in high school. Teachers called it a “point of reflection,” but I thought of it as just another opportunity to stress about grades. Well, thank goodness I am no longer the same person that I was in high school. My hair has greatly improved, my insecurities have shrunk, and my positive attitude has been revitalized to nursery school naptime levels.
So in the spirit of, dare I say, “reflection,” I’m going to divulge some post-dating lessons that I’ve learned at this linear midpoint in my personal experiment. (Yes, that was a semi-humorous math joke…)
WTF?! Summer Challenge: Midterm Review
My name is Roz. I have tiptoed into the dating world, but have never really taken the plunge. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m exceptionally open to meeting new people, but there is a dearth of men in my dah. Why is that? It’s probably due to a lot of things, but if Dr. Jess were to diagnose me, she would say I have a Stage 4 case of the “friendly” vibe. I can’t help it. I’m friendly!
However, when I travel, my most flirtatious self shines through to even the hottest dah prospects, and my Stage 4 case of the friendly finds a temporary antidote.
Now, why is it that I have so much luck when I travel – but when I’m homebound, I don’t have Pierre, Roberto, or Joe the Hot Hostel Bartender interested in me? To be candid, I think I shut off that extra sensual self because there are a host of complications and repercussions (personal and professional) that could arise with the homebound hook-up, especially when I meet most of my dah prospects at work functions.
In the past, I played the friendly card and it has served me well professionally. But “friendly” is going to find a friend this summer, and it’s called “sexy.”
I will release the pressure that I put on myself (we all do this, ladies!) to find a boyfriend. This summer will NOT be about finding that prize of a partner. It will be about learning about myself and enjoying every part of the process—however frustrating it may be at times.
I’m throwing caution to the wind and creating a personal “WTF?! Challenge.”
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