Once upon a time, I thought a moment and a man like that were just around the corner for me. Like at any time, I would accidentally trip over my soul mate and ride off into the sunset.
I call that “once upon a time” my early 20′s.
You remember those, right? That sickening combination of infinite optimism and idiotic bravado? In those days, I’d proclaim proudly (obnoxiously) that I’d never be an online dater. “It’s unnatural.” “It’s awkward.” “It’s desperate.”
Be that as it may, when you cruise by your mid-20s and start rounding the corner toward the late-20′s, and when God or fate or the universe or WHATEVER seems intent on sending you one commitment-phobe crazy after another, you start to think that you should change your tune. Add to that the hysteria-level media frenzy about the plight of educated Black women and how we’ll never get married because all our men are in jail or with White women or whatever, and the “Gee, ain’t it sad but good luck with that advanced degree!” attitude of this coverage, (P.S. – I’m talking to you, New York Times!), and you just may decide to grab fate by the balls and get online already.
At least I did. I am officially a “Black Woman Seeking,” with the online profiles to prove it.
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