Rebecca Coale - aka Becky - is a writer, musician and producer. She and childhood best friend Jessica Donalds created Dating & Hookup and founded J&R Creative Media. Becky blogs about love poetry and modern life & womanhood. She lives with her husband, Howard Coale, and their family in Manhattan and Philadelphia.
I, on the other hand, pride myself on being straightforward, unambiguous and (eventually……) friends with (basically….) all of my Exes. And yet. When I “broke it off” with DirecTV nearly five months ago – clearly, respectfully and over the phone – I had no idea that I was in store for a begging, pleading, making-up fest, including almost-daily desperate emails, Paula Broadwell style.
Whether the marketing folks at DirecTV are freaks or geniuses, or both, the barrage of email I have received from them – playing on and playing up – break-up terms is mind-boggling, emotionally unsettling and hilarious.
(read the full poem after the break)
Nothing. Nothing is sketchier. Ew ew ew.
Count him shocked – shocked! – that so many women watch porn and read Fifty Shades of Grey. Especially when it’s so boring…
(shout out to andrew sullivan for posting this)
Two-thousand-twelve will be the year I traveled 190.2 miles on Amtrak and paid $200 in order to vote.
In the best of times, this year, I moved into a fancy Manhattan skyscraper. In the worst of ‘em, there is still no heat in said building because of Hurricane Sandy. I weathered the windy fray with the Epic-Love-Man-of-My-Life at his house in Philadelphia (or can I now say “our house” because in a manic fit of tropical storm-inspired cabin fever, I started rearranging all the closets and furniture?)
Without my home in NYC, I have found myself an unexpected but surprisingly cheery resident of suburban Philly, walking my dog in the beautiful park, shopping “organic” at the local food co-op, and frequenting the CVS around the corner to pick up all the prescriptions called in by my Upper West Side shrink.
The downside? I’m still registered to vote in Brooklyn. And this election cycle has driven me into such a state of mad paranoia and distress that even though I live in the bluest of blue states, and thanks to the Electoral College there’s no conceivable way my personal vote could really “matter,” I feel I could not live with myself if I did not make the trek and cast this vote in my former neighborhood.
You’re Wearing Too Much Makeup! / Love Poem for the Day from Dating & Hookup on Vimeo.
A letter from 16th Century Korea proves that Epic Love is not just a Millennial thing…
I MISS YOU!!! / Love Poem for the Day from Dating & Hookup on Vimeo.
(via awesome site: Letters of Note)
There’s a brouhaha in Kansas City over a bronze statue of a mostly naked, headless woman who is taking a photo of herself. The statue was a gift from Chinese artist Yu Chang and is located in a local public park. Now, I’m not sure I’d want to walk my kid past this sculpture unawares – so I am sympathetic to the 4,700 people who signed a petition demanding the statue be taken down. This headless woman has VERY aroused breasts, after all.
As September begins, Becky expounds on one of Emily Dickinson’s most passionate love poems. If you were coming in the Fall…
Emily Dickinson Rocks.
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