Rebecca Coale - aka Becky - is a writer, musician and producer. She and childhood best friend Jessica Donalds created Dating & Hookup and founded J&R Creative Media. Becky blogs about love poetry and modern life & womanhood. She lives with her husband, Howard Coale, and their family in Manhattan and Philadelphia.
My dear friend Demetri and I just had an interesting gchat convo about modern (post-modern?) love & relationships. So if Demetri and I are right – and love boils down to a daily decision and we’re all living relationships, or non-relationships, of convenience, or of inconvenience – where DOES that leave romance, passion and, most importantly, commitment?
In the timeless words of the Beach Boys: God Only Knows What I’d Be Without You. And the 2010 reply: I’d be a movie star! A Nobel prize winning scientist! Happy! Are we headed full-speed toward a world where love is the ultimate ball-and-chain?
So Marni writes: “WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH THE BAD BOY!!!!!!! They want to be with a good man who does possess some of the qualities the bad boy pretends to have.”
Oh, how are the mighty fallen!
Daily Intel “feels bad” for snickering, but makes the fair enough point that romance / life / career self-help author Karen Salmasohn fell for the oldest line in the book when she started an affair with a married man who claimed he was divorcing his wife, got knocked up, and then was shocked (and is suing him) because it turns out he’s still very much married and very much NOT getting divorced.
So what IS up with my sex life? It depends on who you ask. A recent study at Indiana University found that men and women, old and young, from 18-96 years old, have vastly differing opinions on what constitutes “sex” – and there’s no seeming rhyme or reason to it.
It turns out my sickness was swine flu (take that Forman!), and having exhausted my backlog of HOUSE re-runs on DVR, I turned to Showtime for solace, where once again I was faced with a torturous dichotomy of desire: Dexter vs. Henry VIII.
Talk about hyper-masculinity. Any man willing to hack apart the opposition limb by limb gets bonus stud points AND bastard points in my book – making him pretty much irresistable (from my pre-established hypothetical standpoint of course). And even if he has an executioner do the dirty deed…that power trip is sexy too. WTF?!
I believe in the body as a canvas for art - a template for design. I have no tattoos (that I’ll admit to) but I admire my friends who take creative self-expression to the bodily level (this means you Stevie!). What you emblazon on your skin must have a profound effect on your soul – just has to be.
So what is to be said of Vajazzling?! (<3 Marcail for sending this our way) Jennifer Love Hewitt raved about her post-break-up “vajazzled va-jayjay” on the George Lopez Show last month. So should we ladies all be clamoring to meld on swarovski chrystals down where the sun don’t shine? Completely Bare Spare guarantees their Vajazzles for 5 days!
Dr. House Is Sexy
I’ve been sick with the flu all day and watching HOUSE re-runs, which have convinced me I’m actually dying from a rare form of parasitic infection combined with hypertensive amyloidosis. Impending doom aside, I’m marveling at the fact that my two major TV crushes of the moment are Dr. House himself and (of course) Don Draper from MAD MEN. In other words, the two biggest bastards on television. It has to be said: WTF?!
This explains a lot! As my college friend Dan (<3 shout out, HDH!) reminded me at brunch on Sunday – the rules of attraction were spelled out to us in The Little Mermaid – by a Jamaican lobster, no less.
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