There’s a third variation on your theme and, well, I don’t mean to brag or anything, but the name is way catchier*:
This isn’t just a weekend or a vacation, with the complications of are-we-going-to-start-dating-for-reals-one-day, and are-we-getting-ourselves-into-a-long-distance-relationship.
This is dating someone…with a set expiration date.
Truth be told, I haven’t done this in years. But those were glorious years—er, sporadic weeks/months.
I am a feminist.
Personally, I think anyone—man or woman—with a brain should be a self-proclaimed feminist. WTF?! isn’t exactly the forum for ranting about human trafficking or maternal health, so I’ll rattle off a few reasons closer to homepage: If a guy has any sort of performance issues, it’s worthy of medical attention and ads on the subway, but if a woman can’t orgasm during sex, well, she’s just a woman. Or, the age-old question: Why are men who sleep around pimps, but women who sleep around sluts? And why is “pimp” positive, but “slut” negative?
But despite my confidence in feminism, it is this same outlook that has given me trouble in the World of Dating. After all, how can I demand that men treat me as their equal counterpart, but simultaneously hope for preferential treatment on dates?
And so, at least for 4+ years in New York, I eschewed romance. Or rather, I accepted its absence with a smile and successfully convinced myself that I didn’t care. Sure, we can meet in Hell’s Kitchen and walk till we find a place. No need for you to plan anything. Sure, we can split the bill. I’m an independent, working woman. Sure, you can text, gchat, Facebook message, or email me. I don’t need to hear the sound of your voice.
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