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At the beach with my family recently, I got a rare lone moment with my mother. For a vacation, the week had been chaotic. Both my boyfriend and I had to work through the trip, and “relax” had ended up to be more of a line-item on our to do lists than a state of being. Add to that ten family members with differing vacation agendas (bike rides! fireworks! beach!), one of whom was a toddler, and my mom and I had hardly hardly had a moment just the two of us.
Then at last, I got some time…even if it was only as we drove to pick up ingredients for fish tacos. In the car we talked about her business, my recent move to LA, and my relationship, which is very happy and now a year old. And then from her camp, this interjection:
Is this going to be, like, the neo Sex and the City? I remember being so pissed at the end of that show, that in the finale, they all ended up with men. My roommates at the time thought I was a sour puss, but I thought that was a pretty narrow viewpoint for a show that was supposed to be so groundbreaking.
The “What I Know Now” column is in partnership with Chrisina Vuleta, the founder of the excellent website 40:20Vision.com, where forty somethings share all things “they wish they’d known then” with 20-somethings. The following is a co-post appearing on both sites. May we all grow happily older AND wiser.
Hello, girls, gals, ladies, and friends:
I write this on the heels of my 31st birthday, squarely in the middle of my 20′s and my 40′s. From this vantage, I’m old enough to have fallen on my face, but I’m young enough that adult stability still feels new. At 31, I’ve learned what it takes to be who I want to be. I’ve also learned that nothing is constant or final no matter how old you get, how much money you make, or how wonderful the man is who loves you.
Here’s a detailed breakdown of all the good things women and their parts now receive under The Affordable Care Act, such as: maternity care, domestic violence counseling, cervical cancer screenings, contraception, STI screenings, breastfeeding supplies, and “well woman” visits to the doctor.
Confusion has been in the air as the rule had most recently been seen with Hyong Son-Wol, the front lady of the Ponchobo Electric Band and brains behind the hit single “Excellent Horse-Like Lady.” (I’m going to assume whoever translated that so literally lacks a certain grasp of nuance.)
It has been speculated that Ri Sol Ju and Kim Jon Un had been involved in the past but were only able to marry now because Kim Jong Il had disapproved of their relationship.
So many hookups of so many nationalities! The influx of Olympic athletes in London this weekend resulted in the crash of the Grindr servers for 24 hours. Crazy.
The hook-up culture of The Olympics has long been reported.
Would you ever mile high? Sounds so WILD!!! But then, the last time I was in an airplane bathroom I could barely bring myself even to touch anything, so. Maybe bring some sanitizing wipes and get a little drunk?
Moira Johnston has been walking around New York topless for a few weeks this summer to raise awareness that it’s legal for women to be topless in New York anywhere that it’s legal for men to be shirtless.
Get on with your boob self.
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